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I'm too tired to feed him.

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Twounder1 · 09/05/2018 06:24

I had ds 5 weeks ago and since then he's been a terrible sleeper. I have a one year old also who won't sleep through, which is fine. I can deal with her. She just wants some milk and to go back to sleep.

Ds is a horrific sleeper. He constantly feeds during the night and its getting to a point where I've had hardly any sleep for over 5 weeks, I'm running about after dd and the moment I get 5 mins I'm doing housework etc. I have no break..

So last night. I must have got him out his moses and fed him. I woke up, looked at his moses and he wasn't in there. I was almost rolled over him. My heart was pounding and he went straight into his moses. The thing is though, he doesn't settle in it. He only settles on me and sleeps on me and I'm desperately trying to get him out of it. But he's a newborn and that's fine, it's just I'm so so tired.

I've ended up feeding him in bits now, he will have a bit of milk, an then ill sleep and it'll go on for ages. Any advice? How do I stay awake?

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soberexpat · 09/05/2018 06:40

oh gosh i feel for you - my DD was the same, for such a long time. do you have a partner- can you divide and conquer?

BrutusMcDogface · 09/05/2018 06:48

If you have a partner, he ought to deal with the one year old so you can just concentrate on the baby. Also, if you're breastfeeding (which it sounds like you are), look up safe co sleeping guidelines. You can safely sleep next to him and feed him in the night without even really waking up.

stargirl1701 · 09/05/2018 08:00

I think you need help - friends, family, paid? You cannot do all of this alone. If there is no-one, you could try your local Home Start.

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FATEdestiny · 09/05/2018 08:03

Try swaddling your newborn. Quite firm swaddling, tight around shoulders/arms/body.

SinkGirl · 09/05/2018 08:03

Been there, although for me it was twin newborns rather than a baby and a toddler. I’ve never known exhaustion like it (plus I have ME so overall it was a bloody disaster).

Do you have room for a co sleeper? Mine hated Moses baskets too but loved being in the co sleeper, some of them are quite compact, and it’s easier to feed them in the night.

Are you still bfing the 1 year old? Or can your partner deal with them? Any family that can help out while you have a rest / take your toddler to the park? We didn’t have any so it was a baptism of fire!

Waitingonasmiley42 · 09/05/2018 08:05

The exhaustion is so hard.. If you want to co-sleep then definitely read how to do so safely. If you don't want to then can you get out of bed/sit up to feed? If you aren't bf then maybe your partner can do first half of night so you get more sleep.

Bananarama12 · 09/05/2018 08:09

Could you get a next to me crib so you can feed him in there and then if you fall asleep there's no way you can roll onto him?
I can remember falling asleep with DS in my arms feeding him. Luckily he was ok but no one could have prepared me for the exhaustion in those early days

Chuffingchuff · 09/05/2018 08:20

Both my DC were very similar, feeding very often and only sleeping on me. It does get easier eventually when they start taking bigger feeds and lasting longer in between. But with my DD who was my second, I ended up co sleeping with and it made our lives so much easier. I could just let down and feed her and didn't involve me getting up out of bed which made it more bearable. Also, can you express and get your DH/DP to feed during the night?

MightyMucks · 09/05/2018 08:21

If you are still BFing 1 year old get her onto a bottle or cup. DS will get more benefit and BFing two is literally hell on Earth.

BertieBotts · 09/05/2018 08:24

Would you feel safe to co-sleep? That is what got me through this stage. Or would a bottle of formula settle him for a while?

BertieBotts · 09/05/2018 08:26

I don't mean stop BF if you don't want to - just as a one off to get you a break over a few days so you can catch up with energy levels.

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Twounder1 · 09/05/2018 08:42

Dp deals with dd. But I did want her in her own room at this point but everyone else's crap is in her room as we've renovated. (by this I mean my mom's junk etc and my brother used to live here and he committed suicide here, all his possessions are in her room and I need help to clear it all. We are sorting it out Friday hopefully ) but dp is still very happy to cosleep with her. I really want a next to me but they're so expensive I'll have to look and see if I can get a second hand one, it'll be a lot easier I think. I'm trying to bf but I'm struggling with it, he's having a bottle at night but he feeds so so slowly. He has the right size teet and flow and then usually all the bottle comes back up so we are back to square one. Thank you all for your replies :) x

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