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My preschooler DC won't stop wrestling and fighting

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Liskee · 06/05/2018 20:29

DS1 is 3.4 and DS2 is 1.10. They're active, sociable funny wee boys who've hit all their milestones so far and don't appear to have any SEN. They're at daycare 3 days a week and DS1 is starting preschool in September.

They have fought over toys and books for months, and that's okay. We've developed a range of tactics and ways of sharing or diverting attention or splitting time between toys. This isn't really the issue.

This last month or so they've started play wrestling and fighting. They both giggle and laugh and scream while doing it, which I think means they're enjoying themselves. The problem is it ends up very quickly in biting and scratching. They both don't seem in the least bit bothered by this, only occasionally does one of them end up in tears, but they're covered in bites and scratches, and they both get so hyped up and manic by all the activity.

I just don't know how to stop the wrestling, or manage it so they don't physically hurt each other. I honestly don't even know if I should be stopping it?! I remember playfighting as a child with my brother, but don't recall the biting! Anyone with any words of advice or support?????

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AjasLipstick · 07/05/2018 09:22

I'd stop it immediately it starts OP. The older DS is going to be much stronger than the younger...he's almost three and a half! He can't playfight a practical baby!

Just say "None of that!" and separate them.

AjasLipstick · 07/05/2018 09:23

Meant to add....otherwise you may find your son is in bother when he tries the same thing at preschool.

123bananas · 07/05/2018 09:35

I would nip it in the bud as soon as it starts. If they need to blow off steam re-channel it into jumping onto cushions or a bean bag or outside play. With time out in separate places if not listening.

Also look at what they are watching on TV. Ds is not allowed to watch PJ Masks as he starts kicking and punching his sisters after watching it. He watched Power Rangers yesterday on POP before I noticed the program had changed and started attacking them again. We don't want him to take this behaviour to nursery so we put a stop to it quickly.

Liskee · 07/05/2018 13:13

That's always been my gut instinct, but the GPs (mainly my dad and FiL) don't see the harm.

Okay, thanks all for posting. That's my way forward confirmed! And I really like the idea of rechannelling energy. For what it's worth it's mostly DS1 who comes off worst! He's a whopper of a thing whereas 'the baby' is made of stronger material! DHs family versus mine!! And at the moment we're all about Fireman Sam and Daniel Tiger on tv, but I'll definitely keep an eye on it too.

Advice, as always, much appreciated.

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Liskee · 07/05/2018 13:14

Sorry! Whippet not whopper!

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aladyofindeterminateage · 07/05/2018 13:16

Who is teaching them and encouraging them?
Once you get that stopped you can encourage more acceprable behaviour.

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