Mother in law

[Toasttea]

I’m off to stay with my mil for a few days with my partner and our son. I’m dreading it as she is so judgmental and interfering with our son. She always has something to say about everything we do. I can’t stand it and I usually have to walk out the room sometimes. It probably sounds ridiculous but it winds me up. Does anyone else have a mil like this or even a family member. Why don’t people just but out!!

The point is I’m dreading going because she’s always watching our every move we do with our 4 month old. My partner knows she’s like this too and it drives him mad too.

I would invite her to yours instead, easier to disappear in your own house

Or take lots of walks and drink gin at every opportunity

Or hand the baby over for a bit and go for a drink with your partner, get the help where you can

I think is quite common to get annoyed by this kind of behaviour, just try and grit your teeth and smile through it or disarm her by asking for her opinion on small things you don't care about. She might be less annoying it she feels like her opinion counts for something.

Well she stays over an hour away train journey. So it’s nice for my partner to go and visit his family through there. Plus we have a cat and she is allergic to them so that’s that out the question. Oh I do grit my teeth but it’s hard sometimes.

She tries to take over so she’s not helping doesn’t listen to what we say half the time.

She asks us something we have said no it’s the nicest way yet she goes ahead and does it anyway. Honestly it drives me insane!!

@aria2015 🙈 might try this!

If it's only an hour on the train I'd just go for the day, personally. The longer visits are the more painful they become. I'd go mad if I had to stay with MIL for a few days as probably would she but in general we get on fine.

My MIL is like this. I feel like she is constantly criticising my kids. It used to really wind me up, but these days I have become very good at nodding and smiling and letting it all wash over me, which is better for my blood pressure!

Too much to come for one day especially with a baby. We’re still here buy heading home today it’s been not too bad. She’s had the odd dig about things but I calmly responded in the nicest way possible 😆 she has a habit of not listening she’s good at that.

Sometimes it best to just stay quiet but it’s so irritating!!!

she has a habit of not listening she’s good at that.

Glad t hear your visit is almost over. In future, could you try taking a leaf out of her book and not listening to her? Smile and nod, and do exactly as you planned to all along?

@finallyhere yes I will be. She only here’s what she wants too. Like for example I had told her how good he was sleeping during the night so did my DP. 20 mins later she asked what’s he like at night? I’m like really you have been told already.

Hears*