What a normal bedtime for a 6 year old

[lexcat]

DD goes to bed between 7.30-8.00 and normally has half hour reading, so it about 8.00-8.30 she's asleep. Is this to late as have hear 3-4 parent talking about older child not going to sleep till gone eight like it's really late.
I do have to wake her in the mornings for school but when she was going to sleep at 7.30-8.00 she was up at 6.00-6.30 (I just don't funtion before 7.00) so made bedtime later.
Is this too late for my dd, what is the norm for a y1 child.

Is she alert and happy in the mornings, or is she tired?

Dd goes up for a story at about 6.45 - 7pm, and is in bed with the light off by about 7.15 - she likes her sleep though and is horribly grumpy if she goes to bed later.

does she seem tired in the day, or when you wake her? I have no experience yet, my dd is only a few months, but i would have thought 7.30/8pm is ok.

No direct experience (our dd is only 20 months) but our friends wee boy who's 8 is in bed and lights out by 8pm during the week and then more flexible at weekends. If you think she's still tired in the mornings with you needing to wake her, would she manage to sit for half hour reading/quiet play from 6.30am-7am so that you could move bedtime back to an earlier time if you think that's what's needed and you wouldn't need to be up any earlier?

Meant to add that you'll know your own child so if it's working ok and she's not desparately tired then I wouldn't change.

She seem to be happier enough in the morning tired by the weekend but is that not the norm.
She will go to sleep without reading if she feels tired, but if I try and get her to go to sleep earlier she ends up been a wake till gone nine. How she stays awake so long I do not know. She has black out lining in her curtains and she likes the dark so no light to keep her awake.

Don't worry about it if it works for your DD and you as a family. I've been stressing about this recently as my entire ante-natal group seem to get their 6 year olds into bed at about 7pm and my DDs don't go up until 8pm, and after a story and a bit of a cuddle they're not usually asleep until 8.20/8.30.
They don't wake up until at least 7.30 and don't seem over-tired, except towards the end of the week, end of term.

Here's the other extreme...

DC are 5 + 7 and rarely fall asleep before 9pm.

They bounce out of bed and start playing together 7-7:30am most mornings. Actually, it was around 6:30am this morning.

If I put them to bed at 7:30pm, they'd be thundering around before 6am most mornings... and it would badly constrain our chances to see friends, or chance for them to do activities.

No thanks!!

ds1 is 6 and he will not go to sleep until 9 30. I have tried to get him to go to bed earlier and he just doesn't sleep and wanders back to the living room. He still wakes up by himself at 6 30 so I guess he doesn't need much sleep

my ds(5) goes to bed at eight and sleeps more or less straight away. But when my ds(13) was little he was a nightmare to get to bed and would take any opportunity to stay up late.

my dd aged 71/2 is in bed at 6:45 and lights out at 7 p, she usually wakes around 6:30 am , but sometimes i have to wake her, we leave for school at 7:30 and she does along school day until 4:45 so is tired out i guess.

My DS is 6 and his usual bedtime lights out is 7.30 and up at 7. DD (just 3) has recently dropped her nap so we have started putting them to bed a bit earlier in the week (7.15 ish) but then spending the time with DS doing his reading book and reading to him until about 7.40. Sometimes it does get pushed later at the weekend but not usually much. DS has always need a lot of sleep though.

Ds1 is 6 and he is usually going up to bed between 7.30 and 8 simply because we have to stagger bedtimes.

Ds3 (2) goes at 7ish
Ds2 (4) goes once he's fallen asleep
Ds1 (6) goes when ds2 is asleep

Otherwise they are all up at gone 9 mucking about in the bedroom

Luckily, ds1 doesn't need much sleep and he's the first up every morning despite being last one to bed.

gdg is that because they are sharing? My two go to bed at the same time and DD would have a hissy fit if I tried to do otherwise, but we get round this by doing things with DS in his bedroom after they have done pjs/teeth etc. But on holiday they both go to bed at the same time in the same room.

Yes they share a room. Ds1 and ds2 were always fine but putting ds3 into the mix has blown it - he is seriously manic!!

Like you, we tend to do ds1's spellings and reading book while the others settle down and go to sleep.

Ds2 won't be able to cope with late bedtimes - he gets really tired and a late night really has a knock on effect for him. Ds1 and ds3 definitely manage much better on less sleep than him.

DS1 goes to bed at 8 but it nearer 9 by the time he is asleep.
He wakes up at 6.30 -7 am every day raring to go ( unlike me)
He does wella t school and only seems to get tired at weekends.
He doesn't seem to need a lot of sleep.

My dd is just 6 and goes to bed between 7.30 and 8 pm. Sometimes she falls asleep straight away, other times she reads for another half hour or so.

I nearly always have to wake her up the next morning - at 7.15 am.

Thanks for all the feedback. I now see that it just that dd don't need as must sleep as some of her peer group. Great really as there never seems much time on the evening she does after school activites. I just stop worrying about getting her to sleep before 8.00.

Off topic, sorry, but Gobbledigook - really interested that your three boys share. Our big two boys share and DS3 has his own room, but I don't like the idea of DS3 being left out once he is big enough to get involved and have considered sticking them all in together.

Does is work well otherwise? DS1 and DS2 are so close (and 2 years apart) I wonder whether DS3 (3 years younger than DS2) will get a look in.

I love the search function. Appreciate this is a very old thread but found Gobbledigook's post helpful. We have a situation of staggering bedtimes which often means the kids are in bed later than families with just one child in primary school. I was started to feel like I was doing something wrong but we do it for the reasons posted.

Thanks for the post
Poppet

DD1 is very nearly 6 and is never asleep before 8.30pm. She goes through bed time routine with her younger siblings and their lights (they share a room) are turned off around 7.15pm. DD1 keeps her bedside light on and reads / draws / writes her diary etc. I turn off her lights around 8.15 / 8.30pm. Trying to get her to go to sleep any earlier resulted in us all getting very upset. She used to share with her younger sister which caused all sorts of problems as DD2 needed to go to sleep, but DD1 was like a jack in the box keeping her awake, both ragging around, DD2 overtired and impossible, me getting cross wanting quiet and lights out.

Since I put DD2 in with youngest and allowed DD1 to stay up later everything has been quiet and happy. They go straight to sleep and DD1 loves a bit of time pottering around on her own. Her alarm goes off at 7.10am, I don't think she is awake before that as often sleeps until nearer 8am on weekends.

almost 8 year old -

6pm reading
6.45pm lights out
7.oopm asleep.
7.00am- woken by alarm.

skybluepearl. After some tips what does your after school time look like to get you little one down by 7pm. What time is dinner etc? I think I might be cooking dinner too late and need to come up with some quicker meals.

Thanks in advance and please if any ones else has any tips for earlier bedtimes they would be welcomed.

Hubby is away between 3 and 4 nights per week and the nights are dragging on. I don't get home until 5pm on 2 of those nights so we finish dinner about 615. 30mins to clear up. Toddler bath at 645. Down by 730 then I start on the books with the older two. Sometimes 20-30 mins with each child. I'm thinking I need to cut this time down...
:)

There isn't a single correct bedtime, it depends on when your child wakes and how much they need as this can vary fron child to child. This is a good guide. www.webmd.com/parenting/guide/sleep-children My 6 year old is asleep by 9, but she only wakes up at 7.30 = 10.5 hours, so within the 10-12 hours recommended for a 3 - 6 year old.