Party's for party's sake!

[MrsBooey]

Hi, I'm new lol.

I am a married mum of 2. A girl age 6 and a boy age 3.

My girly is a March baby and doesnt particularly like being centre of attention so she doesnt have birthday parties (we do theme parks etc) and my son (who loves the limelight) is a late August babe and when it comes to birthday parties for him I never bother because his pre-school friends tend to forget as its during the summer holidays.

So, I have had a thought! What about holding a joint party? Not a birthday party. I intend on continuing with days out etc on their actual birthdays but I was thinking of giving them a joint Halloween party for example so that they can have that time and memories with their friends. I was going to go for a soft play centre package deal and throw in some halloween decs and a cake.

Would you, as parents, think its weird if your child was invited to a party that wasn't a birthday party?

Cheers

I would probably feel less inclined to go. I find birthday parties are a bit of a hassle and take a chunk out of family life and time together. The only reason we go is because of the pressure of being a jerk if you don’t acknowledge a birthday. So a non-birthday party would be an easy one to skip for me. I’d probably be inclined to just do small parties for each of their birthdays and invite just a few friends. It doesn’t sound like either of them would feel they are missing out just yet (6 year old doesn’t want a big party and 3 year old is too young to really appreciate it anyway). If you were going to do a Halloween party though, I would opt to do it at home instead of soft play (everyone has been to a million soft play parties). I grew up in the US and had a friend who always did a Halloween party. They transformed their house into a haunted house and had spooky food and we all can in fancy dress. It was fun because it wasn’t like every birthday party we went to.

I don't think you need to make up for their lack of birthday party - they will go to plenty of parties where they can hang with their friends.

If you want to do a Halloween party etc do so but don't feel like you're making up for some deprivation in their life