I've had such a bloody hard week with kids.

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Don't know why I'm posting really, just to say it somewhere I think.

So, 3 kids, 2 of them teens. Mon ds is off school, Tuesday he refused to get in the car on time for school, and then refused to cycle. All my fault because I left at the time I said I would, and didn't mind read that he was actually coming. He finally gets to school very late, he is rude, rude, rude to us that evening. X-box etc all gone , but just shitty behaviour to deal with.
Then Tuesady morning get a text from dd coming out as gay, not a problem, just a big emotional crisis for her and now me having to be her shield against anyone who will give her hassle (and family party this weekend, so it is going to be interestign weekend)

Then yesterday as picking up dd2 (primary, another mum comes and shouts in dds face about somethign that happened in school, I stepped in and tried to calm it down, mum then shouting at me, headteacher comes over and steps in.
dd2 in floods of tears at home, refusing school this am, me meeting with head this am.

I have no head space left, and I am exhausted.
Supposed to be working, but just sitting here with mn and tea.

Why is it that these things are some much more emotionally draining because it is your kids?

Wow that’s a lot to cope with in a short space of time. Has your DS calmed down yet? How is DD1 and what on Earth was going on with the other parent? I hope the school have banned her from the playground.

Thanks jilted,
Thanks for responding!

I think it has just been an emotional roller coaster of a week, and I am feeling battered.
ds has calmed down (finally) and back to his normal self.
(he even gave dd the right response to her text, much ot my surprise)

the other parent is convinced dd2 is bullying her dd. This isn't the first encounter with her, the last time she knocked on my door, and screamed in my face. After she had gone, dd2 said she hadn't done what the mum accused her of doing. But it is dd's word against hers.

The reality is that it is 6 of one and half a dozen of the other, both girls are doing the wrong thing, and neither are reacting well. The difference is that the other parent thinks her dd is an angel and is the victim, and won't acknowledge her part in it.

I was really angry afterwards actually as I realised she had shouted at dd, right in front of me, and not at me, then I stepped in. Head was amazing. Dd refused to go to school yesterday, so we went up early and fortunately head was there and dd talked to her and told her a lot of what has been going on, which she hadn't told before. Hopefully things will now improve. As I said to head, if the other mum could just understand that this is both of them it would help enormously.

and for you OP. What a horrible week - and involving all three of your DC in something big, dramatic and/or unpleasant. Well they say problems come in threes, so hopefully you can heave a sigh of relief that you've had all your problems for the week now.

I hope the family party goes okay. I get the sense that being gay and coming out and being accepted is a lot less of a big deal these days (not for your DD, I'm sure, but I think from everyone else's POV). I hope she receives acceptance and that it's just not a big deal. I remember when one of my DBs came out and everyone just said 'We know, we've known for years', which I hope helped him to feel like he was accepted and always had been.

thanks juneau.

To be honest, I think the family will all say - no surprise. But she is only 13, and I am not exactly sure how all the teenage cousins will react, was pretty pleased that ds reacted positively to her, as he is more likely to give her a hard time.

She is on cloud nine actually, sending rainbows to everyone!