I have always got on really well with my MIL, she regularly looks after my 3 year old when myself and my Husband are at work and there have never been any issues, until last week.
All 3 of us were at her house with some of the other grandchildren and it became very apparent to me that my son gets treated very differently. My son can have a bit of a temper (I am not excusing the way he behaves, I do deal with him when he acts in a bad way) however the way my MIL reacted was not how I felt appropriate. She didn’t seem to bother why he was being bad, she just thought he was being naughty it was almost like she held a grudge with him after, he wanted to open a door she told him no and opened the door herself, which made him hysterically upset as he couldn’t understand why he couldn’t do something he usually is allowed to do. Because of his temper she does side with the other children in disagreements as she presumes it’s his fault.
I feel very torn as I feel very uncomfortable leaving my son with her now, but feel such a hypocrite because I need to leave him with her sometimes as on the odd occasion when there is no other option. I don’t want to make a big deal of the issue and ruin good relationships with hubbys side so I haven’t said too much about it to my husband.
I have spoken to my son and he seems happy about being with her and has never said anything that makes me think otherwise. I don’t know if I’m just over reacting and making it a bigger deal than it should be. I would appreciate any advise or sharing of similar situations.