Sick to death of it tbh. He's not even 3. I can't do right for doing wrong. I'm so sleep-deprived because of him that the other day he nearly fell down the stairs (he caught himself but then started crying about it) and all I thought was 'well it's your own fault for dicking about on there after I told you to stop'. I give up now, it took 45 minutes to get him dressed today - he kept screaming at me, hitting and kicking, we ended up late for nursery and with me almost bursting into tears trying to explain why we were late. I do not want to pick him up later. I don't actually want to see him for the rest of the day if I'm honest.
Everything is just a problem at the moment but only with me, if DP is home he's still awkward but less so because DP can do everything right. It's more annoying that no actually believes me when I tell them he's been awkward/nasty/downright rude, they just make up excuses for him like he must be tired, 'yeah because I didn't already think of that and make him go for a nap!'
My mum's the worst for it, butter wouldn't melt as far as she's concerned. I ring her for advice on how to deal with his behaviour i.e hitting me, she's adamant he hasn't hit me at all even though she's not here and cannot see what he's been doing. This kid has left me in tears on a number of occasions because of his outburst of temper and no one seems to give a shit 'boys being boys' is something I've been told a few time.
I don't know if I'm anywhere near being on the right lines but I want to take him to the docs to be referred for testing of ADHD or something along those lines but DP won't let me - tells me he's fine, just growing up and testing boundaries, he's very set against it because his ex did that with his other DS and he thinks it's messed with his DS's head i.e. his mum thinks he's messed up so he thinks he's messed up and will act out because of it (he's still yet to be formally diagnosed with anything but she keeps taking him for tests). But he was much older when she started taking him for tests so I think if we do it now before DS is really aware of what we're discussing it shouldn't have the same affect and at least we'd have an answer either he's got some sort of condition or I'm just a shit parent.