Can't wait to be a grandparent. Anyone else?

[Ewanthesheep]

My boys are still babies! But I can't wait to be there to help with their bundles of joys!
I can't wait to do babysitting so they can get sleep. Or clean their houses so they can focus on baby. Or just hold baby so they can shower etc.

I can't wait to take them out, to the park like I do with my boys. Haha. I'm not wishing my life away, but I do hope they have children to keep me busy as I grow. One of the reasons I wanted my children younger so I was still young enough to chase after grandchildren :)

I'm saddened by the fact I will always be the in law to the mom of the childrem though (unless of course they adopt etc with another male, always possible!) And maybe I won't be the first on call. Anyone else feel like this?

Basically didn't have any of the help myself! But hope I can help them when they are older!

Yes but only in that I want to help my children when/if they have their own children to spare them some of the hard work that I’ve experienced with child rearing. I’m still getting over the shock of it all and I’m only 3 years in 😬

Thank you to all those that didn't bash me. I'd list you all but you know who you are! :)

This isn't a AIBU post. So those who don't feel the same way, why are you jumping down my throat. Anyone else feel the same way? Is inviting those who do feel that way to talk about it. Jeeze Louise.

Better hide from the dream police when they come!

Lumbered with more children? Wow, if that's how you feel then poor DC's been lumbered on to you!

Well thanks for the nicer posts :) I'm sure you will be great grandparents. Wanting your grandchildren. :) I feel the same. I have a heart full of love ready to give if the time ever comes. But for now. I will continue my love for the children I dreamed of having. Which came true

@Chocness

It may not have came across the same way. Maybe to full on. But that's how I meant it too. :)

Also notice most of my post is about helping them through having children. Not to steal away my possible grandchildren.

Ewan no one suggested that you wanted to steal your grandchildren.

I think I CAN wait. My eldest son is only 2 yrs off the age I was when do had him and I am only 30!

"and grandparents all want to steal the GC and keep them and pretend to be their parents"

I was referring to another nicer post of the usual general view of MN. Calm down. Pick pick pick at the bad stuff.

I only comment on someone's post when I feel it would be helpful. Not just to tell them how wrong they are. Urgh. Got better things to do than that. And kinder person than to do that.

I had my first baby at 21, as my mum had done before me. One of my most treasured photos is of my nan, my mum, myself and my baby DD - all 4 generations. My DD had her first at 21 too, meaning I was a grandmother at 42.

And I LOVE it. I am 47 now, and have 3 little wonderful grandchildren. I love having them, it's like getting to do it all over again with the wisdom but without the worry and the tiredness. I highly recommend it . I had my middle granddaughter for the day on Sunday and I sat watching her a couple of times with a real lump in my throat as she's just so utterly lovely. It's lovely to be able to help my DD, and we're closer than we've ever been. I was there when my 1st grandson was born and it was an amazing experience.

My children are grown up but I really don't get it when people say that they can't wait to be a grandparent. It doesn't excite me in the slightest.

AmazingPost I could've written that. Both my parents and mother in law have always been desperate to help out, especially when my husband has worked away, but I have absolutely no problem with doing things by myself. I have great organisational skills so everything is always in hand. I hate it that they have this idea that a woman's life falls apart when her man isn't around and they must rush to her rescue.

@CocoaGin

How wonderful. See that's what I was talking about. So happy for you :) and thank you for sharing your story :)

Ewanthesheep, as an initially rather a wary grandmother, I can only say you will totally enjoy the experience. The love you have for your grandchildren is wonderful, without the ultimate responsibility for their well-being. My DS and DDIL moved to where we live, as they were finding it hard to cope with full time work and no family around them. My DH and I are here to help them. It is tiring at times, but an enormous pleasure and privilege. We have our own busy lives, but they have added a great deal of joy ( and at times sheer exhaustion).

It might be the “usual view on MN” OP but no one on this thread actually said it or even implied it about you.

I don’t think anyone meant to be unkind or unhelpful. On the contrary I think posters were actually trying to give you good advice.

Tone is often hard to read online. Clearly your feelings have been hurt and I’m sorry about that.

People will only respond to what you post and sometimes things will get misconstrued it lost in translation.

I'm with you Ewan I'm not sure why you've been given such a hard time!

Of course there are many valid reasons why we may never be grandparents but the idea of meeting, loving and caring for your children's children is a lovely daydream.

People are allowed to post a different opinion when asked if they feel this way.

It's kind of a yes or no thing really.

It's not supposed to be a personal insult just sharing their reasons why they don't the same as you stating why you do.

Insinuating that posters who may not necessarily be super excited at the prospect don't care about their children or won't make suitable grandparents is just as bad if not worse.

Sorry you got such negativity op. I feel the same, Ive kept all their toys and can't even think about them having babies without crying . I love babies and children, I'm an early years teacher, family is everything.... I hope you get your dreams and I hope my dd have a mil like you

My kids are only tiny too, but I was musing this the other day. Probably cos I can hang out with and spoil little ones and still have a full nights sleep.

Plus my parents and inlaws are so lovely and helpful with the kids and also any housework that I’d want to pay it forward. Sadly we live abroad so only see them for a couple of weeks a year, and I’m very jealous of those with family on tap

I have a gc. She is a total joy. But l work full time and have a very full on life so don't have huge energy or time left for much. But every time l see her she lifts my heart.
One thing to remember op is before gcs come the teenage years which can be full on so leave you with a bit less energy that when dcs are small, l found. Also although l was a relatively young gm l didnt have the same stamina l had with my own and l was far more concerned with safety with my gc. I wasn't neglectful of my own but our house and my lifestyle were child centred at that stage but later l had moved on so had to concentrate more on safety as l definitely didn't want anything to happen on my watch.
Overall my gc brings me great joy and makes me laugh out loud on many occassions, has me down on the floor doing stuff l thought l was passed but l am mostly busy with my own life.

Not yet thought about this. Feel like I'm still in the thick of it with a 5 and 3 year old. Can you not just have another baby of your own?

I'm more than happy with my 2 little boys. Not in the position to just have another. But it's not about that. It's more about being excited for when I'm older and that will be the next chapter. I'm a very caring person. Family means alot to mean so I'm happy for the possibility of it expanding later in life. So can't wait to continue helping my children with their journey. And if that means grandchildren then I will be super happy to help when they need it. And to see my grandchildren.

People have kids later these days. Men have the luxury of been able to leave it quite late. In a few decades, IF the GCs arrive, you might not have the energy or health you have now and will feel very differently about the whole thing.

I definitely still feel too in the thick of parenting to even contemplate grandparenting! I'm really enjoying my kids as they are now too so not really hankering after anything else I guess. Who knows what the future will bring, best to make the most of right now I think.

Jeez, theres no guarantee you will be a grandmother. What if they dont have kids?

OP I feel the exact same way. My DS is only 6 months old and I said to DH the other day I can't wait to be a grandparent 😂!
I also understand the "in law" thing, I'd like to think I'd be close to his other half and she'll see me a 2nd mum/someone to rely on and want my help. Lets hope they choose wisely 🤪

To everyone having a go, it's just a fun thought it's not serious gosh 😂 some people are daydreamers, let us have our moments! This is a place to think out loud