It will have been done before but how do/did you know when you family was complete?

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It will have been done before but how do/did you know when you family was complete?

just did but I have stopped at the number I always said I wanted - the thought of finding out I am pregnant now fills me with horror!

when i pushed out a 7lb baby with nopain reflief and told xp that if he ever came near me again he would be eating his own testicles.

i know its complete as i cant have anymore children and dh wont consider adoption or surrogacy.

circumstances say thats it for me. if it wasnt, then i would love another 2 or 3!

cx

i just do

and also coz the thought of any more fills me with horror

when i cried on discovering i was pg, and it wasnt tears of joy

i don't - which is how i know it is probably not!

I always wanted four and now I have four (as of one month ). I could never bear to throw away my baby stuff before, even though I thought DH would never agree to another one. This time I can't wait to bin the maternity stuff and pass on the baby things as DD3 grows out of them.

claricebean - it's passing on baby stuff that has got me thinking about it

I thought we would be complete at 3 but now would really really like another.
Don't know if this is because I can't bear the thought of the 'last baby' (dd is a toddler now) or because I actually want another child.
Dh not at all keen on the idea of 4 (3 took some persuading) so it is probably not my decision to make.

When the consultant cardiologist told me that my DS needed a Mummy more than I needed another baby.

I just know, can't explain it, tho'. Other than to say that the thought of getting pg feels me with absolute horror. It did hit home the other day, that I wouldn't have any more as one of my close friends has just had a LO. It was a bit like being hit in the chest, funnily enough.

Sherlock, Or may I call you MrsGR?

The thing that makes me feel so much for you about this, is that. having met you, I could see you with a big family.

x

Well, I just feel as if I have no choice and as dd gets older I am concentrating on the good things abotu being more independent, losing weight and not having to blow up with another pregnancy, patience already pretty strained etc. I still love it when my stepdaughter is here, and even more when she brings a friend. I like more children and in another life would have had three.

I am sure my family is complete - it just feels complete in some indefinable way.

And the very first thing I thought after DD2 was born was "well thank goodness I don't have to do that again!" It popped into my head way before "I wonder what my baby looks like"

Also, I had a scary pregnancy second time around and neither DH or I feel that we want to go through another one. We are concentrating on the family we've got.

I don't know and I would love to know the answer. I have 2 and dh would love another one. he just has one brother and always wanted 3. I was an only so am happy with 2. I don't want to be pg again, I can't face the idea of sleepless nights, I am back at work and loving it but every time I see a little newborn I get a pang and remember that smell on the top of their heads ..

I know mine is complete even though i am very young, as much as i love my kids the thought of another horrifys me! Plus we would have to go through so much intervention to screen for cf i couldn't hack it.

I thought I was done after my 3rd one but then me and my husband starting walking with the Lord and it changed.I now have 2 more and even though it is very difficult at times they are a gift.

I wish I knew the answer. I have two. I always wanted just two. When I was pregnant with DD2 I remember passing every pregnancy milestone and being thankful I would never have to do it again. And then I had DD2 and spent a year feeling very sad that I wouldn't be having anymore.

I'm sure that was hormones. The feeling has mostly passed (DD2 is 20 months) and I've recently held friends' newborns and felt no broodiness over babies at all.

Part of me would like more children but not more babies. Even though I thoroughly enjoyed the baby part of the two I had. I had a terrible pregnancy with #2 so I couldn't go through that again. I am starting to get excited about the different things our family can do now that we don't have a young baby and I'm not encumbered by being pregnant. But still, it is sad to think about getting rid of the cot - even though I have parted with all other baby equipment happily.

So, the short answer is don't ask me. I clearly have no clue.

I've never wanted more than 2 children, DH doesn't want more than two. I absolutely hated being pg and was a miserable hag from 30 weeks on this time. I don't think my body could withstand another pregnancy .

BUT - my 4 week old is just so gorgeous and snuggly and his head smells of baby and he'll grow up so fast. The birth was an incredible experience. And I was lying in the bath the other morning thinking how sad that I'll never feel a baby kicking inside me again.

Still reckon I'll be stopping at two, though !

Aw thanks Bubble.

Much love

LGJ

Liath - I always imagined having more than two but I'm finding it tough going with just the two. Also like you, I'm not sure my body could cope with another pregnancy

because we can't fit any more into house or car

When a doctor tells yu there will beno more.
Although even then I have taken nearly 2 years to come to terms with it.

We've got 2, & I'd love another baby ... but being sensible (& listening to dh) don't think it's going to happen. I'm one of 4, and 2 doesn't feel like very many kids to me, iykwim...

funnypeculiar i feel like this! I have 2, and although i don't want another birth, baby, am horrified at the thought of yet more sleepless nights; i just can't shake the feeling that 2 isn't enough. It's as though 2 is somehow boring, and i can't imagine only having 1 sibling (i wanted 4 before reality hit me) Dh thinks 2 is definitely enough.