I'm a disabled mum, use wheelchair, have partial paralysis on one side including arm. Going in the bath is hard work so we usually wait till about 6pm so hubby can lift me. Then he leaves me to have a soak. However tonight he got me in the bath knowing I wanted a long soak he took chance to pop to shops, knowing I was fine and would wait for him to get back only 5 mins up the road basically.
Anyway doorbell goes and DS who had been left with me went to answer (I don't need the criticised about him been 5 etc, he is a young carer, he answers on a chain and it's a very good area where neighbours are very supporting) anyway I hear him offering to take a parcel and the guy asked if an adult was there. When DS explained I was in the bath, I shouted to confirm and guy hears me. DS explained that I couldn't get out the bath myself and daddy had popped out. He even asked if the parcel needed a squiggle and the guy said no. This guy has delivered many parcels in the past and leaves them in stupid places like the bin (on bin day) or shoved in Door canopy where I can't reach. Or sometimes in our safe place if he can be bothered to go in back garden (an out building) but today despite knowing my ability (he is regular) he refuses to leave it with my son. DS then even asked that he would leave it in the safe place instead and he refused saying because there was no adult to collect it form door he wouldn't leave it. Despite me being in Bath n having a conversation with him as much as I could (small bungalow bathroom is by front door). DS had started to get annoyed as he does take it personally he felt the guy expected me to struggle to get out bath despite the fact he has explained I couldn't. He is very protective. So he had got angry and said to guy "I'm 5 I can't lift her out the flipping bath can I" so guy then wrote a card and gave him it telling him to give it to me. I was already quite annoyed to be honest but fuming when I read the message he had left on card. He has wrote "Sort your kid out, he has a bad attitude, little wonder if his parents can't be bothered to get out the bath to answer the door".
I do intend to make a complaint tomorrow, but AIBU to think seen as the parcel needed no signiture and he has left numerous parcels before when we haven't been in. That he should have given it to DS or left it in a safe place instead of taking it away with him. (He knew I was in the bath, spoke to me to some degree and is aware of my disability) but to then criticise my child for getting upset with him beggars belief.