Ds is 1 in a few weeks. We are planning a small gathering of family and friends and because we have dd we have let her choose the theme. Now am I being too soft in wanting to by her a small gift for ds's birthday so she does not feel left out? There is 2.5yrs between them and we just want to ease any negative feelings she may have when ds gets presents and attention etc., because the tranisition from becoming an only child to a big sister has not been easy for her. A friend of mine in the same position did not go down that route and seemed to think her lo came out of it ok. Am I making a rod for my own back? We plan on getting dd to blow the candle out for ds and 'help' open his pressies. Just want her to have a good time aswell. Any advice would be appreciated.