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Relatives feeding my children too much.

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JKCR2017 · 22/04/2018 20:29

Hi, DS is nearly 7 and has gained about half a stone since last year. I don’t think the long winter has helped. Hoping the summer and plenty of exercise will help. I try to watch what he eats but relatives don’t seem to think it also applies to them.

Ok, I know grandparents spoil their grandchildren but this is extreme. Letting them eat what they want when they want in huge quantities.

The other day mother let my son eat THREE packets of crisps in a row. I said no, she said yes and that was that. Recently she let him scoff god knows how many left over Easter egg chocolates!! My great grandmother isn’t much better - she buys my DC a massive box of chocolate buttons each!! As well as giving DS a tub of Pringles. This isn’t healthy for either of my children. Luckily my 2yo knows her own limits but DS has special needs and would eat all day if I let him.

If I say no, they just give it to them anyway. Tell me I’m cruel not letting him eat (wtf my kids eat just not in huge quantities).

My mother’s and grandmothers attitude kinda shows in me as I’ve struggled with my weight since a child. My sister is a teenager and has gained a lot of weight too.

Ds’s dad took him out for tea this week. He let him have three sausages from the fish and chip shop!!! And he admitted that he just lets our son help himself to chocolate out his cupboard (we tend to hide it and use it only for treats).

I don’t want to fall out with anybody but I tell them time and time again not to let hem over eat and they let them anyway. It’s reallt starting to show. My sons gone up a size and is looking a lot bigger than this time last year where he looked considerably smaller.

Why can’t people just understand, they are my children and it’s my rules.

Luckily my MIL is fab. If she buys them a treat it’s a small one and she asks us before giving it to them!

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JiltedJohnsJulie · 22/04/2018 20:34

Do you all live together? If not, I’d give DS a very filling breakfast or lunch just before you visit and a banana or sone raisins on the way over. DS should be pretty full by then. If they do give him huge amounts you can just take it off him and say “he’s had p,entry Mum, we’ll save this for later”.

If she’d have insisted on giving him 3 bags of crisps, I’d have left before it got to 3.

user1493413286 · 22/04/2018 21:25

I’d be tempted to tell people they won’t be seeing your children if they continue; it’s harmful to your son and very undermining to you to over rule you when you’re there.

JKCR2017 · 22/04/2018 21:58

We don’t all live toehether thankfully. I reckon my son would be massive by now if we did 🤔 we visit maybe twice a week then one day he’s with his dad who’s not much better!

That’s the thing, sometimes we go visit my grandparents in the morning not long after breakfast and they still offer the kids crap. It’s so frustrating! They don’t like to take no for an answer! I’m sure they are feeders! I like to see my kids eat but only nutritional food! My DS is allowed one pack of crisps a day here (his afternoon snack at school).

DS would eat all day if we let him!!

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firsttimemummy9 · 24/04/2018 16:20

I would try and speak to them about it if they don't listen then maybe stop visits for a while until they understand? This is one of many reasons why my side of the family won't ever be having my little boy without my supervision because they don't follow or respect the rules I lay down for my son. I watched my mum all through my pregnancy just feed my 2 young nephews a never ending amount of food and junk even when asked not to and now one is getting to the slightly larger side at the age of 2. Hopefully it wouldn't come to you having to stop visits and that they will listen to you x

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