will social services get involved ?

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Would social services get involved if I went to the gp as I feel unable to cope well at the moment . They asked why and I said my boyfriend has been in prison for being in a fight after a football match . She asked doing what and I just said ‘violent disorder ‘ type offence . It’s his first offence and he’s a great dad who made a mistake . Anyway .. I’m worried she will tell social services ? Because of my low mood and now being on antidepressants and also me telling her about my partner ( father of my 2 kids ) ... no domestic violence involved at all and not a violent person at all but did make a wrong choice getting into this fight .
Worrying really and regretting going to the gp now

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My understanding is that if a GP is concerned in any way they will make a referral. However that doesn't mean that SS will act.

Social services don’t want to remove children. There aim is to support families and children are only removed if they are not safe. It sounds like you mind benefit from some support.

How old are your children? Can you speak to your HV?

Even if the GP did flag it up with SS all they would do is ring you to have a chat so you could just explain the situation to them. They really wont get involved unless they think they have to. They honestly are there to help not jump down everyones throats at any available opportunity. Added to which they have very overstretched resources so they are not going to waste those on something that does not sound like a problem.
I really wouldnt worry and do not hesitate to confide in and accept help from your gp. It certainly doesnt mean you will have to 'deal' with social services in any way. In fact quite the opposite as SS are more likely to not get involved if they can see you are quite clearly asking for and receiving help from other sources.

I don't see any reason for them to tell Social Services. It would be different if there was violence within the home.

I've experienced long term abuse in the home (I have a baby under 1) and SS have (shockingly!) not been involved. I was terrified they would be as so many charities and professionals were involved in my support, but actually I would of found them quite useful at times I think! If they do become involved just try to accept their support and get the most out of them! They are there to help make sure you have a good healthy and safe family life so use their guidance to help you cope x

In our locality, would be noted by As, but wouldn't reach threshold for a visit.

Do you want support from somewhere?( not SS)?

What do you mean noted by ‘as’?
When would I know if the gp did make a referral she didn’t act overly concerned but is generally a cold person and was asking about the charge and I told him he got into a fight after a football match so it’s a violent charge . I said i was feeling low mood etc but not anywhere near suicidal thoughts etc just needed some help to take the edge of solo parenting 24/7 .

How long did he go to prison for?

If you’re looking to take the edge of solo parenting, I’m assuming it’s been or will be quite a while?

That seems excessive for a first offence...

First offence yes he got a very hefty sentence because it was in central London . It wasn’t even a bad fight not that I’m condoning it. A group of guys started on him verbally and he then threw a kick . It was a cctv based vase so I know this for sure . They just stung him with a very heavy sentance because of the tourist aspect and the crowded area

He’s got 19 months left

That wouldn't flag up a ss referral here. Have you family / friend support ?

Yes great family support luckily .xx

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Thanks for the advice xxxx

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