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Evening performances 4 yr old

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buffysummers4 · 16/04/2018 17:55

I started a thread a little while back about my recently turned 4 yr old wanting to start dancing. I found a lovely friendly class for him and he's having a great time so that's all good.
But I now have a dilemma - they're asking if he wants to do the show in a month or so. In principle he'd love it - he's been playing 'pantomimes' ever since he saw the local one, and he plays at curtains opening and closing, being on a stage etc. However the problem is that it would involve three evenings in a row:

  1. dress rehearsal finishing at 8pm or so
  2. 2 x performances where he would be on early but wouldn't be allowed to go home until 9pm at the earliest (this is the interval - I got the impression they'd rather he stays until the end of the show - presumably 10pm or so?? Shock).

Normally he goes to bed by 7pm and nothing important has come up that has meant him staying up this late. However when he has stayed up a bit later he has never had a lie-in, just got up at the usual time but extra tired and grumpy. He is prone to emotional outbursts and sometimes hitting his brother when tired.

I've never been involved with anything like this for such little kids and it seems so so late to me so I don't know whether to just say no for this year. For him to do it would require some logistical juggling as we also have a baby, husband works late and we don't have local family so it's not completely simple to just have a try and see what happens. (That's without the cost of the costume/ticket etc). On the other hand if he does cope I think he'd really enjoy it.

Any experiences positive or negative of doing something similar with a 4 year old??

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GibbousMoon · 16/04/2018 17:59

I would think he would be more likely to sleep in after such an exciting evening.

yikesanotherbooboo · 16/04/2018 18:09

I would let him if it is just an occasional thing. My DC always had early bedtime but if we were on holiday or seeing GPs or other one-off events they would stay up no problem and just be a bit grumpy the next day. They remember these type of events.

Teaandbiscuits35 · 16/04/2018 18:13

I would let him do it. It sounds as if he would enjoy it. He'll probably be a bit grumpy but I'm sure he'll get lots of out of it.

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buffysummers4 · 17/04/2018 10:22

Thank you - husband and I have had a chat and we are going to do our best to make it work. 4 yr old is v excited. I am conflicted between proud parent mode and dreading dealing with an exhausted grumpy 4 yr old and baby all day by myself.

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buffysummers4 · 17/04/2018 14:18

Thank you Spartacus, useful to hear your experience. It hadn't occurred to me to try to get him to sleep during the performance - he's never been a child who has fallen asleep in his dinner or anywhere other than his bed/pushchair/car so no idea if that would work but worth a try I think.

Gosh those mums in your class sound awful!! I definitely wouldn't take any notice of them. However I do understand the dilemma about inclusion as they get older/more aware. I may be in a similar situation if he wants to continue with it as he has a condition which almost certainly would affect more advanced dancing. I suppose ultimately as they get older it needs to be their decision about whether they continue with it and it will depend on their confidence and how sensitive they are to other people's opinions/comments etc. I hope you find the right option for your daughter.

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MissEliza · 17/04/2018 15:29

When my dd did dance shows, they didn't expect the younger children to do the evening shows. Dd did an evening performance when she was 5 and she was knackered. She quit dance after that.

buffysummers4 · 17/04/2018 16:39

MissEliza - that sounds much more sensible. I don't quite understand why they can't do a weekend afternoon instead. Surely that would still be fine for the older kids but would also suit the younger ones better? Or maybe it's important for the older ones to do an evening for some reason, I have no idea.
It will not be at all the end of the world if he doesn't like it and decides he wants to stop dance but I think he will enjoy the daytime run through in the theatre.

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buffysummers4 · 05/06/2018 11:24

I thought I'd update just in case anyone is in a similar position - he absolutely loved the whole experience!! From unlimited TV access in the dressing room to going on at the end for the bows and seeing the curtain close, as well as his actual dance. He was asking straight away when he can dance in the theatre again!! So I'm really glad we gave him the chance. I was fully prepared for him to not cope and that I might have to take him home at the interval or not make it to the second night but he was fine. Very tired the two days after the second night but that was hardly surprising with two 11pm bedtimes. Obviously every child is different but it was definitely the right decision for him to take part.

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NeverTwerkNaked · 05/06/2018 11:28

Brilliant!! My daughter did her first evening shows at 4 too and loved it! She just powered on through Smile

NeverTwerkNaked · 05/06/2018 11:29

And she too is already counting down till her next show, and excited about auditioning for another one!
Every child is different Smile

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