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Extremely grumpy 1yo

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QueenJane · 16/04/2018 10:43

DS was never an 'easy baby', but since turning 1 his temper is shining through. Most days he will have several meltdowns, sometimes tears but mostly a sort of machine gun growling noise/screaming/no tears/just rage. It is most apparent when we try to stop him doing something dangerous, such as playing with plug sockets or sticking his fingers in the bath overflow.

Nappy changes and getting dressed are also now a battle. My little squishy, giggly boy turns into a gremlin the minute he knows he's getting a change. He goes rigid, with only his head and heels on the floor and screams. Distraction does work for a short time, so I don't feel that there is actually anything wrong. In short, it would be much easier to dress the cat.

I really need reassurance that this is a phase, and possibly some tips to help him. This has all appeared in the last month or so, and I feel like I have no clue how to make him feel better :-(

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PerfectlySymmetricalButtocks · 16/04/2018 10:46

Very, very early terrible twos? In which case, .

Emily7708 · 16/04/2018 10:50

What changed when he turned 1? Did you start him on cow’s milk or increase the amount you were already giving him?

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QueenJane · 16/04/2018 10:55

Perfectly I don't drink unfortunately, and if I eat any more cake my trousers are not going to button-up :-(

Emily I've cooked with cows milk and given him it with cereal for months. He does get much more now, in a cup with meals, but I'm not sure I could say that the two happened at the same time to be honest.

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Emily7708 · 16/04/2018 11:05

My money is on the dairy causing him pain and discomfort. We’ve been there. He probably cries during nappy changes as it is painful to lie down after drinking milk. Try changing to Koko milk for his cereal, if you have to cook with milk use Lactofree at least, and don’t give any milk to him as a drink. Just give him water. It’ll take a few days to get out of his system but should make a huge difference. Also keep a food diary to see if his mood changes more after eating certain foods.

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QueenJane · 16/04/2018 11:31

So if it's possibly dairy, does that mean cheese and butter are out too? He's had these pretty much since 7 months. He has greek yoghurt and fruit every lunchtime too and he loves it Is lactofree free of the milk allergens too? Sorry, I know this must be basic stuff but I haven't a clue.

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Luckystar1 · 16/04/2018 11:36

Both of mine have been like that. We are coming out the other end gradually with the older one at 3.5 the younger one is ramping up now at 1.5 😩

Emily7708 · 16/04/2018 11:45

You’ll probably notice a massive difference just by cutting right down. It sounds like he has a huge amount so that’s a lot of lactose and it’s quite addictive. It’s a bit more expensive but you can get Alpro dairy free Greek yoghurt for his lunch. If you get long life Koko milk for his cereal that’s much healthier, and completely cut out drinking milk. We switched the whole family to Lactofree or A2 milk for tea/coffee as it’s much easier to digest.

Emily7708 · 16/04/2018 11:50

We saw a doctor for my DS’ issues when he was a baby and she said that when a tiny child from a caring, nurturing family displays symptoms like this it’s far more likely to be a digestive or health issue rather than just antisocial behaviour.

seven201 · 16/04/2018 12:23

If you're going to try the dairy free route the milk recommend by dieticians is 'oatly barista' as it's similar calories and nutrition wise to full fat cow's milk. Almond milk etc has very few calories in. If you google milk ladder then you'll get an idea of what to d finitely cut out. I'm not convinced it does sound like an allergy/intolerance but it's worth a try I guess. My dd is nearly two and has cow's milk protein allergy, which is much more common that milk lactose allergy. You could try by just switch milk and yoghurt to milk free versions as they're at the top of the ladder. I don't think you need to worry about biscuits with butter in etc.

Emily7708 · 16/04/2018 16:29

Oatly Barista tastes great but I wouldn’t give it to a one year old as it contains oats, oil and salt, among other things you don’t need to give them. Koko milk is much healthier and easier to digest at that age. Don’t swap to soy milk as that causes other issues. Even if he doesn’t have intolerances he will benefit from reducing his dairy intake as that’s an awful lot for a baby to digest.

Unihorn · 16/04/2018 16:33

Mine is the same. She's been to a gastroenterologist for chronic constipation since birth however, and he said almost all babies have shit digestive systems and that giving lactose free stuff to babies is pointless and just a way to make money off people. Either cut dairy out completely and see if that works or carry on with it regardless. I wouldn't mess around with "milk free" alternatives.

Children start to test boundaries as they get older, it doesn't mean they have an allergy or intolerance...

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QueenJane · 16/04/2018 17:53

I’m not convinced it’s milk either. He’s home from nursery and is a happy chappy, even during a nappy change. I think I’m just being a bit silly...

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gingerbreadbiscuits · 16/04/2018 18:12

It could be frustration. Is he walking? What is his communication like? You could try introducing signing.

Unihorn · 16/04/2018 18:22

Ah you're not being silly, mine turned into a bit of a demon from 11 months. She was an early walker but still isn't great with speech so I think she just gets annoyed at trying to tell me things. She's also just got a bit of a wicked look in her eye most of the time!

silverpenguin · 16/04/2018 18:25

Mine went through a phase like this at about that age. If there was a reason I never found out what it was! Sounds totally normal to me.

Confusedwife84 · 16/04/2018 18:30

I think it's normal, they want to be independent, frustrated that they can't do things on their own still etc

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QueenJane · 17/04/2018 21:37

He’s on the brink of walking, and can stand unaided when he’s forgotten to hold on. Doesn’t actually want to go it alone yet though. He can only say mama and dada, but points at things and wants to know what they are, so hopefully he’s building up a dictionary somewhere! He knows exactly what he does and doesn’t like, so maybe he is just frustrated at not being able to make his wishes known!

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CarpetMothsFuckOff · 17/04/2018 21:42

I can literally see nothing in your op that suggests it's dairy. Why would dairy make him throw a strop when you stop him doing dangerous things

CarpetMothsFuckOff · 17/04/2018 21:43

He knows exactly what he does and doesn’t like, so maybe he is just frustrated at not being able to make his wishes known!

It is more than likely exactly that. Really common at this age ime. Not that that makes it easier to deal with!!

YoloThankfully · 17/04/2018 21:53

Oh god I could have written your op. I was even beginning to think was it cows milk. Now I just think he's frustrated. And the combination on 1 year Injections, new teeth, colds and wanting to walk have all built up into one devil child.
God I hope it's just a phase

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QueenJane · 17/04/2018 22:09

Carpet I don’t think that it is a dietary issue since I’ve noticed his behaviour doesn’t always coincide with having cows milk.

As always, it’s great to hear that I don’t have the only grump

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