DH away..feeling irrationally lonely

[Muse84]

I used to be very independent - I still am, don't get me wrong - but now we have a 5 month old I feel so so lonely that DH is away for work. And it's only a week! I'm not talking about childcare support - though that'll be missed - I'm talking more about his presence and companionship. I know I'm being totally pathetic, how lone mothers do this I do not know. But I have suddenly felt the full force of terror/panic regarding the fact that I'm so dependent on him!! I'm not sure I like this!

I do have friends, I get out daily, but I guess I have been feeling a little down lately and "out of it" from friends who don't have babies of who are in a different part of their lives to me now. So I think I'm vulnerable and my rock has temporarily gone.

Tell me this is hormonal/sleep deprivation, and the total utter dependency will leave when my life resumes a little more normalcy??!

Sorry for weird rambling post, just in bed alone and feeling a little sad

Oh yes it'll pass! I remember sobbing with relief when dp got in from work. I found the days long and lonely despite visits from friends and family.

This stage progressed to me looking forward to him going away so I could have the bed to myself. (It then progressed to him cheating and leaving, so now I have the bed to myself permanently but I don't think that is typical)

My DH worked away Mon-Fri from DD being 4 weeks old - my goodness the weeks are long when you're on your own! No really advice but just make plans, get it and get through it.

Of course you're not pathetic! You're DH/soulmate/best friend has gone albeit temporarily after years of having him there! It wouldn't be normal for you to be okay with that!

Of course, if forced, you would adapt and cope just like lone mother's do. But you are not a lone parent, you're part of a team and your team mate isn't with you so it's completely normal and rational for you to feel the way you do.

I absolutely hate when my DH is working away! Luckily it's rare and only for 2/3 nights but having that break in companionship and routine makes those nights awfully lonely. Like you, I love my DH very much and miss him a lot when he's not here. I completely understand your situation.

Won't be long and he'll be back! Hope this week flies quick for you!

Oh I feel for you ! DH is away with work more than he is home. Just going through a 4/5 week period and it's tough! My only advice is plan something lovely for the weekend and use this week to catch up on things that you wouldn't usually when DH is away ! Happy to keep you company through the week

(Btw that doesn't make you irrational or dependant!)

Thank you all for taking the time to reply and for your support. It means a lot and I'm feeling much more positive today!