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6yo struggling to sleep

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MaverickSnoopy · 11/04/2018 20:13

6yo DD has mostly always been a good sleeper but recently she's struggling to fall asleep. Reasons include ear ache, sore legs, beds uncomfortable, she's lonely and she just can't sleep. I'm inclined to think it's actually loneliness.

Her bedtime is 7pm and she wakes at about 6:30am. We have tried a later bedtime many many times but it makes no difference at all. The other night she was making reasons until 9pm at night and eventually fell asleep at 9:30pm after I sat with her. The next day she was still up bright and early at the same time as normal but during the day where she was overtired she was screaming and upset. She definitely needs a 7pm bedtime and has always needed more sleep than other children so it's not about that.

I'm fairly sure it's loneliness and I've asked her what the problem is when it's not bedtime and she's reinforced that it's loneliness. So what do we do? We've always been quite firm at not forming bad habits but we try to balance it by listening to genuine needs. I'm at a loss though. She's currently tucked in our bed at her request (on her own I should add) and we'll move her into her bed (she knows this) when we go to bed. First time we've done this but it's been full on of late and we really need to stop and sit down!

We need some better ideas though???

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JiltedJohnsJulie · 11/04/2018 23:04

Following with interest as our DD can be like this sometimes.

Ellasshitholekitchenpjpiigp · 12/04/2018 00:48

I have two DDs one 8 and one 4. I read them a story together, normally a chapter or David Williams and then potter around upstairs putting the clean clothes away so they can hear me. The oldest then carries on reading. If she’s had enough reading she will ask to watch a programme on cbbc in bed and I’m fine with this, it’s her wind down time and it normally means she’s too tired to read anymore and she’s always fast asleep within minutes. Both in bed by 7 and then by 7:30 -8pm oldest is asleep but she’s no bother at all and they both like bedtime which I think is important, you don’t want a stressed out child. Good luck

MaverickSnoopy · 12/04/2018 08:41

We've had a bed time routine since both of our children were 6 weeks old and so they always get a story and a good wind down anyway. I would definitely say that it's been a bit hit and miss the last week, but then this has been going on for longer than a week so I don't think it's linked. I did try putting the gruffalo on her CD player the other night but it didn't help at all.

I like the pottering around idea but at the same time her 21mo sister is going through a difficult time settling going to sleep because of noise distractions....it feels like a no win situation!

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catinapoolofsunshine · 12/04/2018 08:56

Maverick can you put the kids in together on condition that the older one stays quietly in bed. My middle one had a phase of getting scared in his room alone and bizzarly having his toddler brother in with him reassured him. Toddlers pretty much always want to share with an older sibling, so it's not like putting an older child out. We separated them again after a while.

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