Hated dummies, major u turn!

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Just that really- was adamant baby would not have dummy; probably in part due to middle class hang up, also due to worry that baby would get addicted and hard to wean off.

Anyhow at 3 months I caved in, baby sticking everything in mouth, drooling, chewing down on fingers. (may be teething, I've heard it can come and go for several months before teeth show. Baby has also been grizzly and whingey.
Anyhow, free dummy came with bottle set I ordered and I tried it when baby was whingey and MAGIC- I am converted.
So I intend to use when all other methods fail, but largely so I can eat in peace and to settle baby when particularly tetchy etc.
I don't intend to use for sleep tho, although may use late in the evening.

So q is... when is best to wean off the dummy without too much upheaval? I'm thinking about 6 months
Am I making a rod for my own back?
What are the other negatives of dummies, apart from general perception. I understand that there may be teeth issues. However, my baby is chewing fist and I think will find his thumb soon and I hear that can be worse.

Dummies are amazing I've got no idea why anyone would want to have a baby without one.
Dc4 is 1 tomorrow and I'll start only using the dummy for naptime, bedtime and serious grouchy moments. By 2 he'll only have it for bedtime and it'll be gone before he's 3.
Dd3 gave up her dummy around this time last year, at 2.5 she was quite happy to gather them all up and swap them for a teddy.

What about losing it in night and waking up crying?
Teeth all okay then?

They actually are recommended for nighttime sleeping as a way to reduce SIDs. HV said as long as you remove by 12 months no issues.

We've got no teeth issues here because when they only use them for sleeping they fall out of their mouth pretty quickly so they'll.only be in there for about 15 minutes at most. Dc4 can find his own and pop it back in during the night if he needs to which generally he doesn't.

Dentist told us as long as it's gone by 5 there won't be any teeth issues.

DS had his until he was 4, many reasons why. However his speech has always been way ahead and now his teeth are perfectly fine.

Friends child didn't have a dummy but sucks the thumb, she's still sucking it at 6 and picking her nose until the skin bleeds. I was glad I went with the dummy.

I didn't have a dummy and I too depended on my thumb!

If I remember rightly I stopped sucking my thumb by 6/7- didn't suck it at school then, just when I was tired!

I still enjoy giving my nose a good pick now!

I also hated them and said my DC would never have one. However my DS would have had my nipple in his mouth 24/7 had I not given him the dummy!

He is now 17 Months and it’s only for naps and nighttime or poorly sofa cuddles. He wouldn’t sleep without it now.

My dd wouldn't take a dummy then at 5&1/2 months stopped breastfeeding and took a dummy stared sleeping 8hr+ a night it was only used for sleep so never had it outside her bedroom and she let hers go last Christmas she was 2&1/2 yrs old but she'd only have it at bedtime so it wasn't so bad and her teeth are perfect been to the dentist two weeks ago for check up. Don't see a problem with them but it's whatever works best for each child and parent good luck. Xx

Sproglets because they look awful? Because they're not necessary at all I don't think. My mum never gave any of us one. I never gave my son one. He sucked his thumb occasionally until he was 8 months. Then he stopped completely on his own and hasn't gone back.
Why ruin a gorgeous tiny face with an ugly piece of plastic shoved in the mouth? They should be banned I think.

I've got no idea why anyone WOULD use them at all.

Is there anyone whose baby does not depend on it for sleep? Baby seems to get off fairly well at night and I'm hoping not to use/need the dummy for sleep. More for fussy/whingey periods during the day.

Why ruin a gorgeous tiny face with an ugly piece of plastic shoved in the mouth?
This was partly my thinking, but I think banning them is slightly ott.

And I guess in answer to your q is the alternative is face being ruined by being scrunched up and tears rolling down cheeks.

I’ve done the opposite to you and used it for sleep since 8 months when I became desperate but I don’t use it for fussy periods.
I would imagine it’d be easier to wean off if not used for sleep although my DD will always put hers in if she happens to find it despite me being strict about it only being used for sleep.
I was adamant we wouldn’t use one and we got to 8 months and nothing would settle DD in the night until we tried a dummy. Mo regrets!

I think dummies are fab! They helped my little one to sleep on his own. It was gone by one and a half years old x

I was the same as you OP, never thought I would give my child a dummy then vowed to wean her off it at about 6 months. She's nearly 3 and still has one

Ds got given a dummy as soon as I gave up breastfeeding (which was only a few weeks because it was truly agony on so many levels)

It helped massively, he did sleep better with it too. He'd only really get it to calm him down when he was hungry and waiting for a bottle or going to sleep.

It was only using it to go to sleep at night by the time he was one and by 18 months it was gone completely.

And yes they are recommended by hv for their sids reducing magic

Please get over yourself hapymummy12345 .

Seems strange happymummy to detest dummies but be ok about leaving a baby to cry itself to sleep. We are very different people. Personally I loathe people who can't be arsed to comfort their babies. I will not be judged by you.

My DS loved his dummy. Had it til just before age 2 when we got rid. A couple of days of upset in exchange for 2 years of good sleep. He mostly only had it for sleeping and it stayed in his room. Handy for car journeys etc too. His teeth are fine.

Due to our good dummy experience with DS, I introduced one pretty much straight away with DD (now 6 months) She took it ok but was never quite as keen. Then she kept waking up every hour for the dummy so we got rid at 4 months and she’s never had it since and self settles without it. She chews on her blanket instead.

Dds 5 weeks old and the dummy is perfect for just when she's a bit niggly and needs to settle off. She always spits it out when she's asleep and it doesn't bother her. I just try to make sure i dont give it her when she doesn't really need it and that way I'm hoping she won't get too dependent on it. One reason I tried it in the first place is because I heard it could reduce the risk of SIDS. And as for 'ruining their gorgeous face'? Get a grip, if it helps them sleep so what, you're not permanently disfiguring them

ugh I hate dummy snobbery. It's got nothing to do with being middle class. Judgemental twats are in every class of society! My baby had reflux and a dummy helped massively as it stopped her feeding for comfort and making the reflux worse.

Happymummy I'll tell you why I used one; twins with reflux. When you've experienced that brand of hell yhen you are entitled to judge. Go fuck yourself.

Well said!!

Seems strange happymummy to detest dummies but be ok about leaving a baby to cry itself to sleep. We are very different people. Personally I loathe people who can't be arsed to comfort their babies. I will not be judged by you

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Seems strange happymummy to detest dummies but be ok about leaving a baby to cry itself to sleep. We are very different people. Personally I loathe people who can't be arsed to comfort their babies. I will not be judged by you

This x a million