Daughter doesn't say when she is ill

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DD is 4. No SN as far as we know. We have had some concerns about possible ASD in the past but most of the things that were worrying us seem to have resolved, and she has become far more sociable and outgoing and grown in confidence in the last 6 months.

She is, however, terrible at telling us how she is feeling (both emotionally or physically). For example, if she has a bruise she just clams up when we ask her how she got it.

She has been ill with a mild tummy bug this week (I'm away for work). She was sick on the sofa while DP was making dinner and he came back to find her just lying on the sofa covered in it and making no move to shout for him. On the second occasion, he put her to bed, and went to bed shortly after himself. When he woke up in the morning she had been sick in her bed but hadn't shouted for DP and had just slept in it. She didn't have a fever or anything so wasn't out of it.

I don't know- is this normal behaviour? She is very verbal and articulate. It is a worry to us that she can't seem to tell us how she is feeling. It's making us worried about her again.

Poor wee sausage. Is she embarrassed or not wanting to make a fuss?

I don't know! She does seem to get embarrassed quite easily. Possibly relevant: she's amazingly healthy for a pre-schooler. This is probably only about the 6th time she's been sick in her life. Maybe she's just not used to it? (Or maybe she IS ill more often and we just don't know because she doesn't show she's ill).

My son only recently started to tell us. He is a bit younger than her. He previously only called for us if being sick had made him scared. Otherwise he would just carry on with what he was doing/sleep in it. I suppose that for a lit of children it isn't particularly distressing. My son only tells us because he wants it cleaned up now.

That's interesting @Dairy. Maybe she just isn't that bothered. I'm a stoic type. She might get it from me.