My baby and more than a few people at the same time

[KimchiLaLa]

My baby is very friendly one on one and with a few people at a time, but if you take her to say, a kids party with around 15 people, or even a friend's house with more than four people, she goes crazy and after smiling for a few minutes, has a complete breakdown. She screams so hard I think she may end up in pain! If I take her in to different room, she calms down. Is this normal? I try and take her out to places so she gets used to things, but I don't want to overdo it. She seems to like baby groups and play dates, and time spent with both my family and my in laws. I just worry it's something I'm doing that's making her highly sensitive. (Yes, I'm a first time mum).

Babies don't have the ability to filter out their surroundings the way adults do. It's something that comes in time. She's just overwhelmed.

I really hope so right now I don't want to take her out to these things as it's so exhausting for her and me. But at the same time I know we will have to at some point!

How old is your LO? Mine’s 3 1/2 months and I think we’re just in leap 4. She’s OK with me at the shops as long as I keep moving, but put her in a room full of adults all staring at her and the poor little thing has a total meltdown.

I’ve noticed she struggles more around leaps so I’m going to limit time visiting family and stick her in the carrier when we’re there whilst she’s having a difficult time.

Mine is in leap 5 but to be honest, with her, I don't think it's a leap thing...I just hope she grows out of it as it's hard to take her anywhere with family right now, especially judgemental family who think it's because I don't expose her enough.

What is leap?

Developmental leaps Pringle:
www.thewonderweeks.com

Oh thanks ,cool . I would just say don't worry. It may be a bit over whelming for her at the moment. Keep doing what you are doing.

Do you,yourself like big groups of people?

I'm fine with them but actually my dad told me I was the same as a baby! So maybe it's that? I don't know.

My daughter is 16 months and hates being around people. She stares blankly at people in shops, restaurants, at their houses etc. Sometimes she warms up after half hour or so but generally she is not a fan. I don't really like people though so I can't blame her!

I wouldn't mind if she just stared at them, but she screams!
The problem isn't small groups, in fact we went to a play date at someone's house the other day and she was so smiley, and today had people round and it was the same. It's more larger groups, of more than 10+ people. Some people she just makes it clear she doesn't like and then won't calm down.