DS 23 months AHHHHHGHRHR!!

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DS is 23 months and usually a lovely kid (bar the usual strops at this age). For the last few months he's been showing blatant favouritism for me (SAHP) over DH which I know is normal at this age but my god does it make life hard. I feel so bad for DH as when he's with DS he's happy as Larry and they can have fun days together with no strops or issues but as soon as I walk into the room DS immediately tries to push DH away, pull me out of the room or throws a screaming strop.

How do we try and stop this behaviour? We've tried being really affectionate with each other to show him that it's okay to share each other and that daddy loves mummy too. It's making it so hard to spend time together as a family and hurts DH that his son just drops him as soon as I'm there. And we have enough tantrums as it is I'm just fed up of hearing it! Help me please!

I found 18-24 months really challenging. My daughter is 2.5 and still very strong willed but with slightly more maturity.
We also had (and tbh still have on and off this issue. I listened to some podcasts by Janet Lansbury who seemed to recommend not making a big deal out of it but being clear when it's dad's turn and just being bright and breezy but firm so we try to do this. Eg dd would ask for a drink then shriek or look like she was about to kick off if dh started to pour it. For an easy life I often took over but we now just say calmly 'daddy is pouring your drink' and she can choose to have a drink poured by daddy or not have a drink. I think this has helped in those specific situations in that she does know the score and accept it but she still has a preference for mummy in general. When we need her to do something quickly or without fuss we will just let her have mummy but we make sure daddy also does alternate bedtimes, serves food etc to try and stop it escalating.

Oh the other things I read were that daddy should just be himself and act normal and you shouldn't try to persuade them that they love daddy /daddy is so fun etc as it's not really about not liking daddy.
Also Janet Lansbury said something about it being made worse by lack of boundaries from mum's side - but I can't quite remember how that made sense sorry