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marshmy · 08/04/2018 20:35

Hello, nc for this as i feel pathetic.
Single parent, 7 month old DD. She doesn't sleep, i try so hard to get her into routines but she fights it and i don't have the energy to stick to it i'm so knackered i just want ONE evening to myself.. so i can have a nice bath and stick a film on just feels like it's never going to happen or ever going to get any better. Does anyone have any tips or ideas for me? i've really has enough of it tonight and have left her crying in her cot and come to sit outside with a cup of tea. Feel so bad i can hear her crying but i'm really losing my mind.

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BendoverK · 08/04/2018 20:37

Take a deep breath,go see to your dd. Once she's settled come back and chat xx you've got this xx

FickleHuman · 08/04/2018 20:44

Calm down
And take a breather before you go back in.

I know exactly how you feel, I'm going through it right now

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marshmy · 08/04/2018 20:45

i'm with her now, she doesn't want to sleep she just wants to play. i've still got to do her bottles and make myself some dinner by the time she's finally asleep i'll do the bottles then be knackered and go to bed i feel like i never get any time to just be by myself i didn't realise it would be this hard

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confusedhelpme · 08/04/2018 20:50

This was me 4.5 years ago.

I PROMISE it gets easier. It really does. Google the 234 routine, this saved my life. Your will has to be stronger than hers.

I too am a lone parent so I feel your pain.

This too will pass Smile

BasilThirty · 08/04/2018 21:07

Single parents are fucking superheroes. I have no idea how you do it, no wonder you feel overwhelmed.
No real advice as I have a difficult 11 month old but wanted to say I totally sympathise.

rubyroot · 08/04/2018 21:18

What BasilThirty says- don't know how you do it!

I feel like I can't cope and I have a very present bloke to help.

And don't feel guilty about leaving baby to cry if you need to regain your sanity- not sure that Bendover gave the best advice.

MadhousMom59 · 08/04/2018 21:35

Hi hun. I had nine children by the same person. Babe it is not going to be like this for much longer. But it does seem like forever. Your time will come when bobby is sleeping through the night.and you can have some time to yourself.

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marshmy · 08/04/2018 21:35

trust me i didn't feel like much of a superhero sobbing into my cuppa in the garden!Grin i'm sitting watching her babbling away to herself now thinking how much i love her! i just had a bit of a wobble i think.. crises averted 🙈😂

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MadhousMom59 · 08/04/2018 21:36

Bubby

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marshmy · 08/04/2018 21:36

9 children?! wow you really are a superhero!

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marshmy · 08/04/2018 21:44

some days i think i've really got this parenting thing cracked.. and others i feel like its cracking me. part of me wishes she was older and not so clingy and the other part wishes that she'd stay a clingy baby forever! i think the part that can't wait until she grows up is winning at the moment tho!

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weasledee · 08/04/2018 21:44

It really does get better and I bet you're doing an amazing job!

helpme1104 · 08/04/2018 21:58

Didn't want to read and run.... it gets better. Speak to hv our local centre does a meet up for lone parents, and Little one might be fussing for any old reason! What methods have you tried ? Have you given her a lot of cues that it's bedtime?

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 08/04/2018 22:18

you’re not a bad parent, you’re a tired parent and everything seems worse when tired and at night. Flowers
My DD 8 months was never in a (rough) routine until the last month or so. The things that have seemingly helped her and us are now being on three meals a day, waking up earlier (I’m back at work so no more sleeping in after a bad night) and putting her to sleep on her tummy.

WasThatPlaceTHESUN · 08/04/2018 22:28

I know how you feel, my 5-month-old DD can be really challenging and some days I can't see a light at the end of the tunnel. I have lots of support from DH and my family and still struggle, so you ARE a superhero for doing this alone. I'm ashamed to say I am staying at my parents' house tonight as DH is away and I couldn't face a night in my house alone 🙈

I'm told that this will pass, I am sure it will Flowers

MadhousMom59 · 16/09/2018 21:06

Hi Hun. I had 9 children and I promise you I felt the same. Things will change trust me.

Iwantaunicorn · 16/09/2018 21:18

Mine are 7 months too. To get them to sleep, i keep them awake for 3-4 hours before bedtime and I encourage splashing in the bath before last bottle then bed, seems to knacker them out quite well (most days!) and I use the johnsons baby bedtime stuff. No idea if the baby bed time stuff works, if it’s the splashing or whether I’ve got lucky.

I agree with pp, you are a superhero 💐

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