Thinking of homeschooling my badly bullied daughter?

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Dd is 8 years old and for the last 2 years has been badly bullied. She comes out of school crying every single day and it breaks my heart. There is no reason to why she is beeing bullied, she is unbelievably shy but not usually with other children, she’s smart, pretty, kind and I make sure she has all the latest toys and clothes to keep up with the others. She goes to rainbows and swimming outside of school and has no problems there with making friends but school is a nightmare for her. I’m have had meetings with the school and spoken to parents but nothing changes. I had planned on having more children but my dh died 4 years ago so it’s just me and her but we’re both happy with that, now I’m thinking of homeschooling her and maybe travelling - I can’t afford to leave the country but she’s obsessed with the beach so I was thinking Weymouth/Devon and I’d like to see more of Scotland. Anyone got any experiences or advice?

It sounds like a great idea if you can afford it financially. I know lots of homeschool families whose kids are now at uni or working and successful, happily married etc.

You both sound wonderful. have no experience of home schooling but I do hope everything works out for your daughter no matter what you decide.

Before you jump to the extremes of homeschooling have you considered moving her to the same school as her Rainbows friends?

I think deciding to take her out of school needs to be a long term decision- it's probably ok at 8 but what about at 12 or 13?

As another idea could you move her to a new school in Devon?

There's a home education board on here and if you search home education and your town on fb there will be groups you can join for info and advice. I think it's a fabulous idea, hope it works out well for you and your lovely girl

Yes, I'd take her out like a shot. Can you afford to not work for a few years, and only party time at the most in the secondary years?

I agree I would definitely take her out of that school. Like others have suggested is another school not an option to try first? Hope it all works out whatever you decide it must be horrible for both you and DD

Gosh you’ve both been through so much and I’m so sorry that she is being bullied. What have the school said? Are they following their own anti-bullying procedures? Do they give her any extra support? When my DS experienced bullying I wrote to the Head and the copied in the Governors stating what had happened, asking why it had been allowed to happen when we had already raised the problem with them. We also asked what they were going to do to ensure that it didn’t happen again and asked for a written reply within 7 days. If you haven’t written to the Head and Governors already, I really recommend doing it. One letter, followed quickly by a meeting and it was all sorted.

Agree with others. I’d do plenty of research before taking her out. If it was me, I’d try another school first too. A Mighty Girl has some good books on bullying here which you both may find helpful, but if you want to take her out and can manage financially and have researched it thoroughly I’d go for it

Do it. You’ve both had some hard times. Time together to heal and explore good things life has to offer will do more for her than School. Do it and jump with both feet. Don’t overthink it. Follow your instincts. You know what’s best.

Home Ed can be a wonderful experience. School will always be there. Facebook has a wealth of groups where lots of activities are organised.