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Where should dd stay for her first night without us.

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prufrock · 05/08/2004 21:25

This bloody wedding we are going to is getting to be so much trouble.
Ds is coming with us, and dd is being looked after by dh's Mum. She is 28 months, and has never spent a night without one or the other of us (can't quite believe I'm typing that - I so did not intend for that to happen) So this will be the first time.

Do you think it will it be less traumatic for her to stay in her own house, and dh's mother come here (and so be in familiar surroundings but without us and ds) or to go and stay at MIL's (new house that she has not been to before, but she won't find it strange that we are not there).

BTW the weekend after we are going to be away for one evening/night and my parents are coming here to look after both dd and ds.

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Hulababy · 05/08/2004 21:35

The first time we left DD overnight - well it was until about 5am, but we didn't see her until about 11am - was at our own home. My parents came over for the day, spent all day with her out and about and then they stayed over at our place too. It meant she could keep to the same bedtime routine in familar surroundings.

hercules · 05/08/2004 21:38

Def your own home.

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whymummy · 05/08/2004 21:44

i will say MIL'S house,she'll be too busy exploring the new house to realise you're not there but it all depends on your dd,if she's not happy with changes or gets scared at night then live her at your house,hope you have a nice time

serenequeen · 05/08/2004 22:15

your house without doubt - will save you packing as well as everything else.

Aero · 05/08/2004 23:00

I'd say own home too. We left ds at home with a v good friend who he knew well when we had a wedding miles away to go to. He was just over two and she made sure he had a marvellous time and he did. I reckon we missed him more than he missed us!

wild · 06/08/2004 08:23

Own home! as little change as poss. Will also set good precedent for the following weekend. Is it poss dh's mother could come a day or so before you go to ease transition?

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prufrock · 10/08/2004 12:14

OK, own home it is. MIL will be coming over on the Thursday night, and dd loves her (they look for bugs together) so we should be OK - and igf tehy're not, well I'm 5 hours away so there's not much I can do about it!

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Piffleoffagus · 10/08/2004 12:18

we had my mum come to our house, it worked really well.
she did not miss us adn behaved fabulously well.
However she was ever so happy to see us, she was 20 mths and it was from 10am to12pm the next day, wedding also, kids were welcomed but we wanted to be on our own to have a good time!
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elliott · 10/08/2004 12:24

interesting. Intuitively you would think your home would be better, but I have done both with ds1 and it definitely upset him more when we left him at home with my parents, compared with staying at a friends house. I think he was quite disturbed by us going away from home and not being there, whereas at my friends house he didn't expect us to be there.
We've only done it once at each place though so there might have been other reasons why he was more upset at home.

wild · 10/08/2004 13:27

Like the bugs! Will be fine I'm sure. The first time is always a wrench but sounds like dd is in really good hands. HAVE A GOOD TIME!!

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