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I'm about to loose my mind - stop him playing with his willy

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Zola78 · 10/05/2007 20:49

My 2 1/2 year old boy has an obsession with his willy. Not so much in the day time but at night or at opportunity when he doesn't have a nappy he touches his willy to it's erect. Why I'm sooo frustrated is he plays with it at night and then wets the bed sometimes 3 times in the night. Please tell me someone esle is experiencing this and how I can stop this. He's not potty trained yet

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DrippingLizzie · 11/05/2007 18:57

My DS (nearly 4) is always scrutinising his scrotum. As long as he's not hurting himself (and not doing it in public) it doesn't really bother me. He'll grow out of it.

Or maybe not, if DH is anything to go by

Chica · 11/05/2007 22:29

My 8 year old started 'fiddling' very early. Prob at about 10 months. Too young to negotiate with. Double pull-ups helped as he got older. I never told him not to but asked that he did not do it downstairs and never in front of other people (esp his older sister who was grossed out!)At about 4 years old he would disappear to his room for a quick fiddle. Now he saves it for just before bed on occasion and has even talked to me about it. Not embarassed at all!
Now my 19 mth old has taken over in the determined fiddling stakes. He discovered his willy a few months ago and since then grabs it at every opportunity. If naked will actually walk around holding it. So we are back to doubling up. He wears trainer pants with underwear over it so that he cannot (easily) get his clothes off.
They must get it from their Dad.

Bubble99 · 11/05/2007 22:34

What's weird about a little lad fiddling with his willy?

Am I missing something?

It feels nice, therefore he does it.

What is weird, IMO, is a need to sexualise it and try to prevent it.

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Chica · 11/05/2007 22:53

I agree - I think we adults can often make a big deal out of it but it is perfectly normal and nothing to be ashamed of. Just don't want it to get to the point of public display - my friend's son would constantly play with himself at school, during lessons,at6 years old. Teacher was not amused, neither were the girls in class. The other boys thot it was great and some followed his example. Needless to sy my friend had numerous summons to 'speak' with the teacher.

My son told me it feels nice and 'tingly'!!!

Rhubarb · 12/05/2007 15:38

Actually I was saying "weird" as in how weird that my ds doesn't take an interest. I thought that was obvious. Thanks for taking it the wrong way again.

And I apologise for thinking you were a troll Zola, but when you start a thread like this as a newbie and then don't reply for ages, well you can understand my concerns?

moondog · 12/05/2007 15:40

Gawd,leave him bev unless you want to fuck his head up completely.
Fail to see connection between playing with his willy and wetting himself.

FrannyandZooey · 12/05/2007 15:42

"Thanks for taking it the wrong way again."

I am confused by this post, but it seems like you mean I have a history of deliberately misunderstanding you, Rhubarb? Why do you think I would want to do that?

When you follow up a post asking if the OP is a troll with the comment "weird", I not surprisingly thought you meant that you though her son's behaviour was weird, not your son's.

FrannyandZooey · 12/05/2007 15:44

It does make the nappy leak if they get an erection and leave the willy pointing upwards. I've noticed this with ds myself.

Rhubarb · 12/05/2007 15:50

No F&Z, for some reason I seem to be posting things I think are obvious but that then get taken the wrong way so that people can jump on me and find offence in something I have written.

I hope Zola understands why I asked - not called - if she was real. It was one of her first threads and after posting the OP, she didn't post again until the next day.

Do none of you say "weird, cause my ds does xxxx?" Or is it just me then? And thanks for saying my ds is not normal, that's very kind of you and rather below the belt.

FrannyandZooey · 12/05/2007 16:21

Rhubarb I said it was unusual for a 3 year old not to fiddle with his willy. It is unusual. It doesn't mean your son is not normal or anything of the sort. I think you are deliberately misunderstanding and twisting what I have said, now.

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Zola78 · 13/05/2007 09:05

I don't want to get into anything with you Rhubarb but when I started the thread I thought I would have time to hear the replies straight away but then life stepped in. I didn't take offensive if anything I didn't understand the reference to me being a troll.

We had a dry night last night! Let's hope it continues. We are gonna start potty training this week

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Chica · 17/05/2007 20:12

Oh my goodness! Surely there is no need for us to get personal or over-sensitive about any of this? It is great that we can, as mums, post things here and get other mother's viewpoints. I am fairly new to mumsnet myself and believe that we all have good points to make and our children are all different therefore we can share experiences. This thread has been useful to some of us but others are either causing offence or taking offence. What gives? Lighten up already!

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