Always down to the woman?

[cindersrella]

My daughter is poorly.... does anyone else feel that it is down to them to always sort out childcare in the school holidays or take the time of work to look after there children if they are poorly.

I am self employed and my husband is the main earner and employed so i know it is difficult and easier for me to have the time off..

This isn't a moan it's just curiosity!

To all the ladies on there own juggling childcare, my sister is the same and her. Children literally end up with her close friends or family... she has to try and take time off in the holidays as holiday to try to relieve the pressure!

She gets no help from children's dad as they don't see him therefore there is no support.

I am dreading the summer holidays!

Clara even when I wasn't self employed I still sorted it all out but he did take a few days to have them..

His job is much more demanding now so it's not as easy..

My DH earns a lot more than me. My job can be quite flexible (I work part time and it's quite easy for me to, say, go in on a Wed rather than a Tues) but also has some very non-flexible bits when I really have to be there at a particular time if I possibly can. So I would do my best to cover the sickness initially but would call on DH if necessary. We're lucky because our DC are generally very healthy and rarely ill.

We try to do an equal split in sick days. We are setvof being as equal parents as possible.

However, I’ve really noticed that his work expects me to do it and my work expect me to have a nanny. There’s pressure from wider society for the women to do it all even if you have an equal partner

No, my dh has taken more time off than I. Quite a bit more actually. We need men to step up so that it becomes the norm.

My job has much longer holidays so I've covered more illness during those times. I've not shirked.