Bit of a long story so I apologise. My eldest ds is nearly 18 he has slight autism and got adhd and severe learning difficulties. 2 years ago I had to flee from domestic violence miles away from family with my other 4 children. My eldest ds has a different dad and decided it would be best if he stayed with him as he always wanted to for years and I couldn't tell him where we would be goiing as I didn't know as well as he was in his last year of school. Fast forward to now and my eldest ds is having regular contact with my violent ex. I know my ex is playing games as he is buying things for my dc (has no contact with his own as he is not allowed) and promising my ds the world. I've tried to talk to my ds and explained that he could be putting us at risk (accidentally telling ex where we are or giving information which I know is why ex is buying him) but my dc can't see it and still keeps going round his. Myself and 4 dc have had to move twice already through to threats being made. I don't know how to make my ds listen to me. It breaks my heart to think that I will have to break contact with my ds as it's too high risk. Can anyone give me advice on how to handle this. I don't blame ds at all as he sees it as an easy life as ex is giving him money, food etc and ds doesn't have to work (lazy teenager stage). I just want to cry :(