If you had children of both genders would you want them to go to a co-ed school

[Twiglett]

and make concessions to ensure they could go to school together

or would you go for single sex schools

talking secondary here .. not primary btw

concessions would probably be not quite as good schools

no.

I would choose schools according to their merit, and DS's and DD's needs/preference - whether it be mixed or single sex.

don't you think its important as siblings that they go to the same school then?

I think in an ideal world it would be nice, but actually it is more important that they are at the right schools for them. I don't think the years really mix much, I don't think the sexes really mix much apart from a boyfriend/girlfriend thing, generally I think siblings in the same school probably sounds more important than it actually is IYSWIM

if we lived in rough area and my oldest child was goo with his fists and my younger child was weedy yes.

if we are talking good ecucation without the social consequences of bog washing - then whatever gets good gcses,.

I don't see why it would matter if they went to different schools, as long as it didn't make drop off/ pick up impossible.

I never really talked to my brother at school, it would have been uncool of him to be seen talking to me.

my eldest hates his younger twin bor & sis. but he was a healthy deterrent when it came to duffin up my weedy one.

going to the same school as my 4 yr older brother made no difference to me - apart from no bullying ever because he was enormous - i think it's the time at home that counts. i suppose explaining to them might be difficult if they go to the same primary and would transport be an issue - y7 young to go on own?
my experience of all girls schools is that the education can be more focussed as girls tend to be less disruptive. i have experience of a single sex boys bottem set and that really worked, but it depends on the teacher. i have never set foot in an all boys school. i do think that it's good for education, b ut the lack of balance needs to be made up for outside school because real life skills do require a knowledge of how the opposite sex thinks and operates.
i think they might be old enough to talk it over with you and have their say and i would visit all the schools too.

have to disagree with pph about sexes not mixing.Ime boys and girls do mix,much more than I did at school.DD has had boys as friends since yr7/8 when the boys mature.It is the norm and very healthy imo.

Don't think siblings would mix though unless they were in the same yr maybe.

Absolutely PPH. Siblings being together is not necessarily a bonus. With the exception of siblings in the same school year.

Family is great, but, its the teenage years when they strike out for independence. It is better, IMO, to make choices based on them being individuals.

i do have one of each and will be trying to send them to co-ed schools, mostly because i have attended both ss and co-ed myself and was much happier and more comfortable in co-ed

i wouldn't sacrifice quality of education but it would affect what areas i would move to and things like that

At secondary school level they should be able to get to school on their own unless you live in the middle of nowhere and there is no public transport.

What are their opinons and it depends on the concessions you make. I went to a very academic girls school where as my brother went to a mixed ablity private boys school. We both went to the right school. There is no way my brother could have coped with the academic curriculum I did. Instead he got to do loads of rugby and the school concentrated on what he enjoyed and was good at.

I think it depends on your children's opinons and what the concessions you are making.

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Something that we will have to face in a few years. As there are 4 state schools near us, 1 rough & 3 good. The rough school & 1 of the good schools are co-ed and the other 2 are single-sex (1 boys & 1 girls).
The 2 co-ed schools are planning to merge and be based in the rougher area, so will the merged school be good or bad?
So we may have to go the single-sex school route. But the girls school has a reputation for being very 'arts' based & the boys for being very 'science' based.
So if dd takes after me and is science based (I work in IT) and ds takes after dh who is arts (works as a graphic designer) we will have two very square pegs in round holes. ARRGGGGHHH

Secondary is a long way off for me, but generally I approve of mixed schools. I went to a mixed primary and then to a single sex secondary. Hated it. Then it merged with the boys school when I was doing GCSEs and the atmsphere just seemed to improve. Not saying the same is true in all cases mind.
But have made a decision that my two will hopefully go to the same school. will definitely be at the same state primary, and then probably the same state secondary.

I'm with the majority here, in that I would want them to go to the best schools for them, regardless of whether that meant a single co-ed or different single sex or co-ed schools.

My brother and I both went to single sex schools. He was weird and would have done my street cred no good at all if he'd gone to school with me .

Mine all went to the most appropriate school for them, so 3 different schools. 2 have ended up at the (same) boys grammar but the other 2 went to (different) co-ed schools.

All the grammar schools here are single sex BTW

its rather a long way off for me as DS is year 1 and DD is yet to start nursery

but I always assumed they would go to same school

there are in our vicinity ..

private - good co-ed (closest school to us of any), good boys (bike ride) and good girls (bike ride / walk) single sex schools

state - good girls single sex (bus ride), boys single sex to be built (walkable), fair - good co-ed (bike / walk)

so it makes me ponder .. of course much changes in a short while

twig just because they are good or not good now doesn't mean they'll be the same in 8-10 years time

I wouldn't even think about it until much closer personally