Comparing children.....

[ducksandrivers]

I'm expecting dc2 soon and SIL is currently expecting her 1st, due a week after me.

I'm already absolutely sick of the permanent comparisons from my in laws, all of them are doing it constantly and it's really grating on me! Is this what it's going to be like from here on out?! How on earth do I put a stop to it without sounding like a cow. It annoys DH but is always said directly to me if I'm out with MIL or SIL, I've tried changing the subject every time but that doesn't seem to work.

We're only pregnant at the moment, it's going to get so much worse isn't it. Weight gain, natural vs c section, breast vs bottle, dummies vs no dummies, co-sleeping, sitting, crawling, walking, talking. My poor child is going to constantly be compared to their cousin!

I've already been told how much bigger I look, that my baby doesn't seem to move as much and SIL is obviously expecting a gymnast

I'm going to have to emigrate aren't I?

I don’t think you need to emigrate no, just maybe develop a thicker skin? My DSIL had a baby a few months after me and according to DMIL hers was the perfect pg and the perfect baby.

I may have had the odd chunter to DH but DSIL is now one of my close friends and the cousins love one another.

I think it's natural to compare to some extent, not necessarily in a competitive way, but just that when you're discussing something one baby does it's natural to think about the other baby too. Eg if SIL is talking about how often her baby kicks and she then asks you how often yours kicks. I've heard the comment about 'becoming a gymnast' quite a few times in relation to active unborn babies! Try not to take it too personally, OP.