He makes it look so easy...where have i been going wrong?

[Namechangemum100]

Dh and I have a 14 month old DD. I am a sahm and dh works full time.

Since she has been born, aside from bank holidays dh hasn't taken any annual leave (own business) so it's always me and DD.

She is very very clingy, won't leave my side, cries alot if I try to do anything, doesn't really play independently.

I am now 40 weeks pregnant,came down with an awful cold, and dh had to step in at the end of last week so I could rest. He has taken on most of the childcare for about a week over Easter.

DD is like a new baby. I come downstairs in the morning after an extra hour in bed (thank you dh!) And she is pottering around happy as Larry. She doesn't even climb all over me, she just plays around me, brings me stuff etc, but not the same clingy behaviour as before.

Was I doing something wrong, I feel as though dh has come in and solved all out problems like some kind of super hero, and I'm so chump who was breaking her. I just don't get it?

A break from just being with you has pbviously done wonders. Just enjoy it and be happy it has happened before baby 2 arrives.

The week of enforced slight separation has made dd realise that nothing bad happens if she is not permanently attached to you. Perfect timing I'd say with dc2 imminent.

I agree, and wanted to say congratulations, you picked the perfect time to be ill and need his help.

I'm 28 weeks pregnant and my DS was the same as your DD. DH has had to take over on a lot of things and DS is definitely leas clingy now. I don't think you and I were doing anything wrong, our babies have realised other people can meet their needs as well.

Thank you everyone for your reassurance...iv been really worried that I have been doing something wrong and making her unhappy, because she seems so content at the moment. Really hope that it lasts when dh goes back to work tomorrow and that it isn't something I am doing to her.

Don't think it is you at all. She has probably just realised she doesn't need you all the time and you are not going to leave her forever if you do something else. She was probably more clingy recently due to you been pregnant. When I was pregnant with my second my dd was very clingy and wanted me all the time. Since dd2 arrived my husband has had to do more with her and put her to bed and sort her out if she wakes at night. She now asks for her dad a lot more now and doesn't want me as much and wants her dad to put her to bed so think they do get used to you always doing everything.