Move to be closer to family??

[Lauren889]

Since having my little boy we have thought about moving closer to my in laws. We would need to move 3 hours away from our life we have set up, work and friends. My parents are slightly closer but don’t want to help with child care and there isn’t any jobs for us in there area.
There are jobs, better schools and it’s a nice area. It would be so nice to be able to pop to the cinema as we have friends who have offered but always let us down so we haven’t had any alone time since he was born.
The only thing that’s worrying me is leaving all the friends we have made and the life we have set up here.
Has anyone moved or not moved and how’s it worked out for you?

There aren't any jobs for you in which area - where you are, or where you are thinking of moving to ? If I've understood it right, you say there are jobs in the area you are thinking of moving to ? Have you / your dh applied for any ?

How will you get housing if you don't have jobs ? Both getting the deposits and the contract in the first place and then paying ongoing rent....... I know "better" and "nice area" are subjective, but there tends to be a correlation with that meaning rents are higher.

Have you discussed with your in-laws your plans for them providing childcare ?

It is always a big step to move away from everyone and everything you know, but worth it for better opportunities / a better life, but from what you have posted it doesn't sound like you have made concrete plans for a life there, more that 'the grass sounds a bit greener' ? Maybe I'm wrong, but I'm only going on what you've put in your OP.

My family live in Aus and dh in Ireland. It's been very tough but has really strengthened our marriage as we've had no one to rely on but each other.

Hsving said that dd1 is now 7 and we've decided to move home because not being close(er) to our family sucks.

I'm looking forward to not necessarily everyday help but definitely respite when we need it.