Crying .. I need help!!

[Jeanie16]

My 7yo boy cries and shouts at anything competitive
I really don't know what to do we have tried everything at home I can ignore the crying and not give it any attention but at football it's becoming a problem.. the boys really loves football, not that you can tell at times when he's crying and shouting at his team mates we have tried to give him treats if he doesn't cry and we have told him he will lose stuff if he crys none of it works!
The problem I'm having at the moment is other parents on the team are now saying that my child is badly behaved and is taking his crying and shouting out bursts as bullying. I no my son and no he's not a bully but things have got so bad now it's even cause another parent to go on the pitch and tell my son if he speaks to his child like that again he will have him to deal with and it's cause other parents on the sideline to gang up and single one child out!!

I just don't know what to do I don't want him to cry and be so stressed but I don't want to stop him doing something he has enjoyed for the last 4 years could anyone give me any advice on how to help him over come this please

What is he crying at, exactly? Is it because he's losing?

Have you tired sitting down and talking it through with him? Perhaps try and get to the bottom of what's really making him cry. Try and get him to understand that he certainly isn't going to win if he stands there and cries. Although he also needs to know that we can't win everything and that's life.

If it were my child, I'd probably be tempted to say that he joins in without the fuss, or he doesn't join in at all. Sounds harsh, but maybe it's what he needs to understand. He's still very young though. Is he neurotypical or does he have any additional needs?

I’ve spent many many hours over many years on the sides of football pitches. It must’ve been quite bad for the parent to storm onto the pitch? What exactly was your son saying?

To be honest he’s old enough now to know how to behave appropriately. If he doesn’t behave you take him home. Not fair on the other kids. By letting him carry on you’re condoning his behaviour so he has no reason to change it.

he shouted because the other child had kicked the ball out of play.. and no I don't condone what he does far from believe me I have 3 boys this one is the middle child they all play football and they are all told when they are in the wrong the particular parent had now said he was in the wrong for doing what he had done and this has all come down to another parent singling him out so all eyes were on him he said to me after training it's not nice mum hearing adults talking about me I can't help crying. And he can cry if the team is winning he cries at home at anything and everything he's always been a very sensitive child he can cry if a random person talks to him :/ but only recently the shouting has now come with the crying..

It's like it all starts off so well and then one little thing can happen to make him cry and then that's it it goes down hill fast :(

Hmmm. Sounds like he has some difficulties with regulating his emotions. Have you tried speaking to the SENCO at school? Have they noticed any issues too? They may be able to offer some better advice. There are some great books out there for children about dealing with emotions that he may benefit from. I think one is called something like "There's a Volcano in my Tummy." May be worth checking out.