Do I go on holiday??

[kentgirl1]

DP and I are close friends with a couple who are getting married in Vegas in September. They really want us to go but understand if we don't as our DS will be 11 months old then. My mum has said she will look after him, which I know she will as she dotes on him. DP really wants to go, but I'm so torn. Has anyone else been away when Baby was around that age, and how did it go?

I haven’t but plenty do. Only go if you really want to, don’t go if you’re being pressured to go. It’s a lot of money if you’re not going to enjoy it.

That's what I worry about. I really want to be there for our friends, but I know I'll worry about DS. My mum will take him out every day and he'll have a great time. But I worry if he'll wonder where his Mum and Dad have gone. And if he's unwell, we won't be there for him

We went to Vegas on our honeymoon when DS was 18 months leaving him with his GP's I enjoyed parts of it but also spent parts of it very anxious and worried and just generally sad because I missed him. On balance I would have rather not gone. There were lots of people there at all times of night with sleeping toddlers in pushchairs so you could always do that but obviously couldn't get drunk or go in certain clubs/bars.

Not as nice as a holiday but I was in hospital for 4 weeks when dd was 10/11 months and she was fine. Your baby will be ok if you want to go he won't forget you can you do a few overnights with granny before you go?

I wouldnt at that age as separation anxiety can be bad.

I think you should go and have a great time. Your mum will love it, your son will be spoilt rotten, and you and your husband can reconnect and have couple time.

Please God yes go! If your mum is perfectly capable of looking after him then why not? I speak from experience I had the same dilemma when my pfb was same age. After many sleepless nights (of guilt) and anxiety I eventually found myself sat on that plane and realised I'd made the right decision. Just because your now a Mum doesn't mean you forget the person you was before. Enjoy the special time reconnecting with your dh without any distraction just for those precious few days and celebrate with your friends. Your DS will never remember later in life that you left him for a few days but imo will be brilliant for yourself and your relationship with DP. Please God go and have the time of your lives enjoy each other's undivided attention for that short time

I think if it's just a couple of days you should go for it. He will have a lovely time with grandma and it will be good to have some time as a couple.

@Twickerhun that's what I worry about, that leaving him will be distressing and then I'll feel guilty that I'm putting my own needs over his. Or he might not care at all and be totally fine!