My toddler has started throwing a tantrum when I pick him up from Nursery

[FionaMum2JD]

Hi,
I'm new to this type of chat so please bear with me.

My JD is 20months old. Over the last 3 weeks, whenever I pick him up from nursery, he immediately starts to throw some sort of a tantrum. He gently throws himself on the floor and sometimes does a little head bang but not hard enough to cause any marks and then cries. Once we are outside and in the car he's fine and we have lots of laughs etc.

I find it distressing as I look forward so much to seeing him, for him only to be upset when he sees me.

I have tried the following things:

• Asked nursery to keep saying to him that mummy's coming soon, shortly before I'm due to arrive to pick him up.

*last night I thought I would stay for a few minutes and play a game with him and look at the art work on the walls with him before setting of home.

Is this unusual? Does anyone else have this problem.

Before this started happening, whenever I picked him up, his face would light up and he would run across the room to greet me.

Thanks in advance for any help/advice.
F

Don't know if it is the same thing but my ds can be good as gold all day for the nursery staff then immediately starts to whinge when he sees me come through the door. He is fine in the car aswell. I wonder whether it might just be a little bit of an attention/show off type of thing. Perhaps that's what your ds is doing?

phase!, dd did it and most of her friends when she wnet to nursery, usually ahppens when they first start but know a few children who are doing ti now after year in nursery, percevere(sp), not nice, but if you remain confident and calm, you LO will soon pick up on that

Mine does this aswell.

not sure if its just a phase that willobia of conme and go as they all will my dd2 once had a phobia of the bath,then the hoover, then hand dryers.went and on and on

but dd2 did do this tantrum throwing thing when being fetched from nursery and i mean proper nursery at 3 (and shes a tall girl so v.embaressing) went on the whole yr she was there till she started school, when she was there it was fine, she was just bored at h give her home i couldnt give her what she needed(she needed school) the change in her since she started is miraculous!! and turns out shes very clever and loves school (in reception but ofetn goes in dd1 class yr 2 to do number work)

so my theory is she was bored, therefore your ds must be very clever and longs for extra activities/work that nursery provides.

dont worry he will grow out of it

sorry should say " will come and go"

I've read up on this before, and what made sense to me then was that it is kind of a compliment to you rather, he feels totally safe and free to be himself around you and that is the only way he can express that. Don't know if this makes sense.

Ds does this as well. He cries when I leave in the morning, but then when I come to pick him up, he doesn't want to leave - he struggles to carry on playing with the cars etc.

I think personally with ds it's a bit of payback for leaving him in the first place.

It's horrible isn't it, they way they make you feel at the end of a hard day at work. Really hope it's a phase.

Thanks for your comments they really help. Just knowing it?s not only me that it happens to or that I've done something to upset him.

As I said before, the other night I thought I would not rush JD out of nursery and stop for a few minutes to look at the things he's done. Last night when I picked him up, his first reaction was much better but then it was almost like he'd just remembered that he mustn't forget to throw himself on floor etc. I then quickly asked JD to show me what he'd been up to. He was then quite happy to show me round before we left to go home. So I think I will keep doing this for a while and see how it goes.

Thanks again for your comments.