this is quite morbid and extreme so please bare with me and is also my first post as I need advice.
so I was sexually abused by my stepdad when I was younger. basically I told my mom at 15 and she said one day you are going to grow up and leave me and he's not and they got married and I moved out at 15. We had a turbulent relationship after that but I loved her and I had a son and I told her she would not take my child round that monster and she divorced him and now he's out of my life for good. Until... 3 years later since she divorced him I met an amazing man and moved away from the west Midlands to the East. I plucked up the courage to close that chapter and report him to the police even though it is 16 years on. I have done my interview etc however when I told my mom I reported him we fell out and no longer talk. Apparently I'm selfish etc.
we have not spoken since October and now they have interviewed her I found out she said she knew nothing about it and I had never told her and it's broken my heart. It's making the case harder for me and I can't believe a mother could do that to a child.
I will never ever talk to her again but my child still sees her on weekends and she is good to him.
she's dead to me now but how do I grieve. I'm a mess and alot is getting on top of me. my family are my partner and my son now and that is all I have. I have no friends because of moving. I'm having councilling but I'm struggling with this issue. Any ideas suggestions. My partner suggests cutting her out of my son's life to completely get rid of her but isn't this unfair to my son?