Its going to get easier one day...right?

[Namechangemum100]

Apologies if this comes across a bit ranty, but I'm feeling so frustrated and tired I just don't know where to turn.

I have a beautiful 14 month old DD, and I am due any day with ds...I am so so exhausted.

I have awful SPD, and now a cold to add on top, and I have absolutely no family help what so ever. Dh runs his own business and is therefore out early and not home until close to DD bedtime, and I just feel dead on my feet. He is home at weekends and does pull his weight.

I am anxious about the upcoming labour, and really worried about how DD will cope when ds comes along.

She is such a clingy baby, and I just don't know how I will manage the 2 of them together. She will not give me a minutes peace during the day unless she is napping.

She won't let me sit on the sofa without climbing all over me, so I am stuck sitting on the floor all day whilst she continues to climb all over me. The same goes for if we are upstairs, so I have to either stand or sit on the floor.

She is also like this in her highchair, therefore whilst she is eating, I cannot sit down, otherwise she will start clawing for me and complaining.

She won't play with her toys without me, she basically won't do anything at all. I did have some niave hope she would have grown out of this at least a little by the time ds arrives, but quite clearly that isn't the case.

She is a delightful little thing, but she sucks every piece of energy out of me and never seems satisfied. She won't sit in her pram for long than 10 minutes, she complains constantly in the car, I just can't catch a break!

Does anybody have any words of advice? I don't have anyone to help during the week so it is going to be all on me non stop.

Help! Is this ever going to get easier?!

Any chance of putting her into nursery for a bit?

DD went in almost full time then when I went back to work at the same age and she's thrived.

Settling in might be a wee bit challenging but it might be worth trying.

good luck

I second getting some childcare to give you a break. It would also (hopefully) get her a little used to being away from you. She will change - DS was very good at playing on his own when he was 10-12 months. Then went through a phase where I had to be in the room or he would have a meltdown. And just like that he changed again - now 19 months and can entertain himself while I make food/sit down/tidy up.

I'm 33 weeks with twins so I really understand - some days are hard. I have a bit of help and DS goes to nursery two days a week, but on the days we're on our own I sit on cushions (SPD has somewhat improved in the last few weeks!) and we play. TV is your friend every now and again. Will she sit in a trike? DS loves his - I can't walk very far/fast but it's half an hour out of the house. Also play dates - even if the kids are too young to play together, it's a change of scenery and gives you a break. Can you sleep while she naps?

Some kind of childcare would work in theory, however I'm not sure I could emotionally deal with it. Ds is a very much planned baby even though the Gap is very small, and I would feel as though I was shipping dd out to make room for Ds when she is still just a baby herself. It just doesn't sit right with me at all 😔

Hi, rather than nursery, could you look at a post natal doula or a mother's help for a few hours a week? They can help with baby as well as your daughter so she won't have to feel left out and you'll get a bit of a break!

Although at that age DD1 loved going to her childminder as there were two slightly bigger ones who played with her! I only did 9.30 till 3 so it didn't feel like I was away from her for too long.