Hi all
I’d really appreciate some advice on how better to support my DH during quite a stressful time. Things are pretty full on for us. We have a 2 year old that doesn’t sleep through the night and also takes about an hour to get to sleep each evening. I am currently 5 months pregnant as well. We both work full time in fairly senior posts and between us we just about manage to keep things running. We do receive some family help with childcare two days a week but I don’t feel we can ask for more than we currently have (nor do I think it would help). We are also renovating a house. DH is a very motivated person, always on the go with something. He’s doing a lot of the practical house renovation himself where possible ( a) as he does have the skills and b) as he’s ever so slightly miserly about paying for others to do it - day job is as a wealth manager, so this makes sense!! He’s also very hands on with DS and is usually the one who gets up at night at the moment, as he’s a lighter sleeper and wakes as soon as DS makes noise. He’s also very good with housework, cooking etc - if he sees that something needs doing, he plunges in and does it. So, my question is - how can I make life easier for him? He’s taking on a lot at home and at work as they have a huge target this month that he’s working late and Saturdays to achieve, plus he has professional exams shortly that he’s revising for. He’s under a lot of strain. He won’t give himself a break, it’s not in his nature. I have tried to pick up the whole of the housework etc to relieve him a bit and I am currently the one sitting in with our son for an hour each night to try and get him to sleep. But DH is still under huge pressure, and I’m worried he’ll get ill. What more can I do to ease the pressure on him? As mentioned, I’m at work full time and pregnant with a toddler so I’m shattered myself. I’m trying to pick up as much as I can but it doesn’t feel enough. Any wise words appreciated.