Room sharing

[tullytwo]

Just wanted peoples opinions on kids sharing rooms long term.

My 2ds's are sharing at the moment but am thinking they really will need their own space soon. There is a 4 year age gap between them. I shared with my sister until I was @ 15 and dont think it really did me any harm but then had my teen years in my own room.

Whats everyones opinions please?

how old are they now?

My DSs share at the momnent (they're 2 and 4) and sometimes it's great, we hear them chatting and singing together after the lights go out at bedtime. But the little one always wakes up first and gets his big brother up when he's not ready so DS1 is often tired from the early starts. We're thinking they will need separate rooms in a few years, if not sooner if DS2 doesn't start waking later.

They are nearly 10 and 6 at the moment - would involve us moving house or converting attic to give them their own space which is defnitely doable just dontknow if its necessary or not!

We're in the same position, two-bedroomed house. We're looking at extending to get that third bedroom so we at least have the option of separate rooms. I think they definitely need their own rooms once they're teenagers. My DP and his brother shared when they were teens and ended up hating each other!

I am planning on DS & DD sharing as soon as DD is old enough to go in another room. I do have another bedroom, but for some reason I would like them to be together for a few years.

I shared with my sister until about 13. We argued at the time but I think it was actually a very beneficial arrangement and some of my nicest memories are of lying awake at night chatting. It has definitely made us closer than siblings who didn't share.

But I think you do need your own room for your teen years - especially as there is such an age gap between your two. When your older DS has his first girlfriend he will not want to bring her back to the room his 11 yo brother lives in!

My two are sharing - we have a tiny third bedroom but it is my Study and where would I mumsnet in private? We also need it for when relatives come to stay TBH. So mine will share long-term, I can't see any way round it.

For mine it has mattered more when they reached their teens. Until then they were quite happy to share.

There was 4 years between my sister and I, and my brothers were in another room, but to be honest, it depends what they use their bedroom for, is it a multi-functional room or do they literally just sleep there? then its easier to make a decision!

I have 3yo dts b/g and havent a clue what I am going to do when they are 8yo unless I win the lottery! only have 1 room for them atm, no funds for loft converting or moving house, so they will have to have a courtesy curtain!

Sorry - there were 3 girls in our bedroom when I was little! we did get on each others nerves, but we just had to live with it, thats how it was!

Homework side of things, you could deligate a quiet area! or convert a dining room into a teenage chill out zone, then they can stay in bedroom together, as for when they start to bring girlfriends home, I wouldn't think too far ahead yet!

We also have a two bedroom house -3rd "bedroom" downstairs but rather small so used as a study/big cupboard! My twin DDs (6) share and seem very happy - its lovely to hear them chatting away in bed, but I do envisage them needing more space when they hit their teens, if not before, so hope to extend before then, finances allowing.

I shared with my big sister until I was 11 and she was nearly 13. She was well ready for it by then but I missed her terribly - especially as I got the tiny box room that fitted a bed and nothing else! She used to have her door shut a lot and I suddenly felt like an only child - mind you, I think that came earlier and was more to do with the way we got on (or didn't )
Also when she started developing, you know, bras, periods etc. I think she needed her own space - before that I was simply a nuisance, but after it she was really on another wavelength.
HTH!