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My husband suffers chronic pain and I'm due to give birth in 3 days

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Dollypopsicle · 25/03/2018 13:17

Hi everyone

I'm 39+1 weeks pregnant and have a 6 year old darling little girl.

My husband suffers with chronic pain due to Rheumatoid Arthritis (RA).

The pregnancy was unplanned and due to husbands RA (and age!) he was unsupportive of the pregnancy. He wanted me to terminate I didn't want to terminate so didn't and here I am due to give birth by c section in 3 days time.

It's been a real rocky road since discovering I'm pregnant. He was already suffering with depression (not that he would admit it) due to the RA and so home life has been very difficult. He remains unhappy about the baby, he has said he will be with me at the birth, not sure if he wants to be there or if feels he has to be there.

Anyway...He finally accepted anti depressants and for a few weeks he seemed to be much better. Then he came down with an awful virus which has flared his RA and he's now back to being in chronic pain and low in mood.

I think I'm having a bit of a hormonal flip out today and going in to a major panic as to how we're going to cope in a few days time when baby has arrived.

Is anyone else in a similar boat or been in a similar situation and come out the other side?

Am petrified of what's to come once baby arrives.

OP posts:
Calmingvibrations · 08/08/2018 22:13

Sorry for such a late reply - I hope you had a smooth recovery from the C section and are enjoying your baby. I also hope you are getting support from those around you including DH

IWas the one with arthritis but had little support from my OH due to his long working hours.

Anyway, I wanted to say has your DH been back to the hospital to try different drugs to help the pain? I recently started on biologics (after avoiding them for years) and so far, the results are fantastic - 90% normal. If he could get pain levels down then he’ll be happier and you’ll have more support.

I hope you and baby are doing well the past few months x

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