When to introduce a new partner?

[Stevie121]

Hi ladies I need your advise please.

My ex of only three two months wants to introduce her new guy to our 2 year old son. Not only that but she wants to take our son away for two days with this new guy.

Is it just a male thing or is this not right?

Grateful for your advice on this

Thanks

S

I think that's too soon. Would suggest more like 6 months would be best.
However if your son is only 2 he's unlikely to remember!

Way too soon I think people say about a year. Luckily at that age it'll just be one more person in your child's life, they don't understand relationships as such.

Unfortunately there's nothing you can do though.

It just feels way too soon and I agree 6 months to a year would be more suitable. At least then if the new relationship didn’t work out there wouldn’t be any impact on my son.

She’s using solicitors to threaten me at the moment and I’ve gone from having him every day from nursery till 7pm and three nights a week to one night in two weeks. I feel like I have little or no voice on any parenting level.

Sorry ladies just missing my boy

Thank you for your advice

I think you need to see your own solicitor regarding contact

I think it's way too soon but luckily he's as young as he is he won't remember too much

You can have your son 50% of the time. She or you don't get to decide who you see or what you do when child is with the other parent. Get to a solicitor sort your contact

That's so sad. Surely you should start at 50/50 contact?

Unfortunately I think you'll have to get a solicitor as well to get some good advice.

Not unless you have serious plans to marry them end of. Unless you have good reason to believe they will be a permanent fixture in the child's life you have no business introducing them to the child only for them to disappear.

Thank you for your response ladies it’s very much appreciated.

I’m fully aware that relationships start and although being sad that our chapter has ended I am happy for her. BUT.... but going away and playing families with him is a step too far.

It has now become dirty and she has brough a solicitor in and said welfare concerns! Which I find very difficult to understand seeing as my son has been with me every night for 5 days while she was away with work and right up until the day she went to see a solicitor.

He gets more quality time with me than he does with her and I’m far far from being a questionable parent.

It looks like it’s going to get dirty and she will use him as a weapon