Today my toddler has...(vent)

[Carouselfish]

DD almost 3 has:
Broken a small rocking horse I've had since I was a child by casually dropping it on the floor. She knows it's a decoration not a toy.
Broken the dog bed by jumping on it after being told not to.
Run up the muddy garden in her new soft shoes.
Destroyed my White Stripes DVD by shoving it through a crack in a wooden chest.
Run amok in Pets at Home and run away from me in the car park.
Thrown a stone towards the dog.
Used dog shampoo to wash the garden steps.
Fallen asleep on the sofa and weed all over it.
Refused to touch any of her shepherd's pie.
Refused to let me tell the 'story of the day' at bed time.

I think that's it. I know a lot of it is my fault for allowing her the opportunity, but Jesus it was a relentless one today.

How are all your toddlers?

Consequences don't need to be being hit though. If I do something wrong at work my boss doesn't hit me and I can't hit people if they do something wrong so what is the point of teaching my child that is a way to deal with problems?

My kids get consequences - like losing toys (equiv to losing money as adult), having to tidy the mess they made, etc I also am 'far out there' and explain things to them, so when one was bitten by a kid they were wrestling a toy off we explained they were both naughty and should not have been fighting in the first place, but they are never to bite in retaliation.

Teach a child not to hit... by hitting... 👏🏻🤔 slow hand clap

If it’s any help my 7yo, YES 7yo decided to swish his hands in the broken egg gunge in Sainsbury’s the other day. Even though he knows not to . Sent him to the toilet to wash his hands whilst I grabbed the last 2 items and paid. Still my son is nowhere to be seen when my shopping is bagged. Stand there frantically for 10 minutes looking for him. Go to security to ask them to look to be told it’s data protection I can’t look (wasn’t trying to...much) and they have to watch everyone else. Said something aboiut it’s a child and how disgusting this is and walked off. He was in the men’s having a poo

My point. Kids will be kids!

Oh have i... lmrtft

Look, is it me but my crew of four - born in three years with no twins - did not behave like these holy terrors. Having said that, my grandson has frequent meltdowns, so maybe this behaviour pattern is a modern phenomenum. I wonder if this ‘I am my child’s best friend’ approach is to blame? Perhaps the ‘pack leader’ angle is more appropriate. Like we do when training working sheepdogs - you would be amazed at the parallels. Ladies, please enlighten me.

Mine’s 14 and has ignored me for two days. I’ll swap.

My ‘children’ are grown but I do remember days like these. I think one of the worst was when my son made patterns with a tub of zinc and castor oil all over the hall carpet...which was less than a week old. I had to buy a rug.

My 2y2m old :

• cried whilst I tried to make lunch and constantly wanted to be picked up (lunch involved super dangerous gas hob as we are abroad on holiday).
• cried and tantrummed when we went for a nice walk as a family. To be fair, dd2 (6) also whined for a large proportion of the walk until she saw a big fuck off snake and then she screamed and cried instead.
• threw a large rock on dd1s foot and tried to stab her with a stick (two hours later she was still trying to get him to apologise to her by giving her a kiss and a cuddle as he is still nonverbal).
• tried to climb to the top bunk bed and tantrummed when I stopped him
• tried to follow DH up a stepladder and tantrummed when I stopped him

And today was actually a pretty good day for DS as then he got to help DH with stuff in the garage after lunch which he really enjoys and kept him happy for hours so probably less whining and tantrumming than normal.

My da7ghter was an unholy terror who drive me to distraction and now aged 13, is absolutely gorgeous and so well behaved and lovely. Have hope and do not allow people to judge or cast aspersions on your parenting if you love your child and treat them with kindness and respect. Being 2 is hard

Oh yes for sure Alicat,, I really go along with what you posted re misbehaving young children.. Its a sign of today's times really, where children are seemingly allowed to do all kinds of bad behaviour things, without any chastising at all.. It makes me cringe these days, when you see kids running amok in supermarkets and stores, and screaming and crying in cafes and restaurants, with parents just on phones, and ignoring their kids..

I was in a supermarket the other week, and a kiddywinks age about 3years old, was walking about unattended along the ailes, just taking things off the shelves, and throwing them on the floor, the Mother was texting on the phone, I told the little one to put the things back on the shelf, but she said, F,,, off to me. and continued to get stuff of the shelves anyway...

Yesterday was relentless.
I am a actual trained negotiator in real life
There is no negotiating with toddlers 😭

My 15 Yr old is on a school ski trip. He phoned last night to let us know he'd been to the shop and bought a bottle of rum. He was completely pissed.
Not looking forward to seeing the teachers at the airport later today.
Bring back the toddler days!

My children aren't Angels, but I am their parent, not their friend.

We are on holiday at Center Parcs, yesterday a small child pushed DD1 (11) out of his way to get out of the pool in front of her. I took him by the arm, moved him back to her side and let her go up the stairs and I followed her. DD1 was laughing that the other mother giving me the evil eye.

@Alicatz66 Im with you!

My DS1, now nearly 40, when he was a toddler, painted his bedroom walls with poo from his nappy; locked me in the conservatory; locked himself in the bathroom, which meant DH having to use a ladder to climb in through the window to rescue him. Two year old DD ate a worm and a woodlouse and sucked water from the toilet brush. She blames me for not having watched her more carefully.

3 ur old this weekend has beat his dad up...twice had a little play fight and got over zealous. Also screamed because he was told he couldn't watch telly due to behaviour (jumping on our poor dog) luckily she is OK. Tried to strip in the back garden. Smacked his 3 brothers about then cried when something is took off him

I’m sorry to bring the mood down here but those with pets really need to supervise their children better.

Firstly, a lot of what I’m reading is animal cruelty and secondly, if your dog or cat was to react to being roughed up by a toddler you may end up with an injured child which would quickly suck the humour out of all this.

I’d hate to think you ended up having to put a dog to sleep because it had simply had enough abuse and decided to fight back.

I’m honestly not meaning to be rude, I just hate unkindness to animals.

Ooh can I join in?

2.6yo DS currently crying and having a tantrum because we don't have pizza in

• because the sun is shining ( for once ) though the window

-because the dog is asleep on his dog bed -because I was stood in the kitchen

• because chase wasn't asked to do the mission by Ryder

And just basically whinging for the fun of it...got to love the following couple of days after he's back from spending the weekend at Daddy's

Frau I'm with you on that. DD is not allowed in the dog bed full stop and jumped in it when dogs were not there. She also threw her stone towards my dog - if it had been really aimed at and/or hit there would have been nuclear melt down.
Bit of a derail here but, rules are - Only let him come up to you. Don't bend over him or hug him. Don't go up to him when he's lying down. Be calm and quiet and only stroke him. We've got a rescue collie and they are notoriously nervy. We're very on the ball about his body language and are teaching her to be, he's got plenty of space and opportunity to get away which is key.

Ignoring the posters who say it didn't happen in my day, don't be their best friend, because honestly, it probably did happen even if not in your family and who has said anything on here about being unwilling to parent? It's just that sometimes you have hard HARD days!

Well said frau 🐕🐈🐇🐭