Getting baby to sleep in Moses

[clairerow7]

My little girl is now 3 weeks (tomorrow) she sleeps on my chest at night and refuses to go down.
I'm desperate to get her to sleep in her Moses basket for her safety! I'm after hints and tips to make this happen without letting her cry it out!!

??? I read your thread. I gave you the reason your baby is biologically wired to want to be held. But I don’t think you’ve googled or read about it yet.

My baby slept on me for 4 months. Is there a particular reason you think it’s unsafe?

Op, congratulations on your little one!

Our DS really settled well when we bundled him up in something called a "swaddle up love to dream". I will get a link for you. It was a godsend for us, up to about 8 months, as it also helped him (as he got older) learn it was time to sleep and became part of his routine.

We also abandoned the Moses basket which DS hated in favour of a bednest, which he loved and was delightfully transportable when we went away...

https://www.naturalbabyshower.co.uk/products/love-to-dream-swaddle-up-original-grey?utmmedium=cpc&utmmsource=googleshopping&variant=1098695047&dfwtracker=18187-1098695047&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIj4DAuuyA2gIVz5TtCh1yrg7qEAQYASABEgLNfDD_BwE

Sorry no clue how to do clicky links

www.bednest.com/

Just give her time, ours was the same for the first few weeks, it’s exhausting as you can’t sleep properly because you’re so scared. No advice really but just give it time.

We bought a sleepyhead when we had this problem and since then have been able to put dd down at night (day time is a she other story!). If you don't want/can't afford that then try a sleeping or swaddle bag rather than blankets, move baby off you slowly in stages, warm the Moses basket first and try white noise. It took a few weeks for white noise to help us but now it's brilliant.

We used to wait for ages after she fell asleep then put her down. From 7 weeks we had her in a rocking crib, swaddled, with a dummy and shhing her and patting her tummy. We gradually reduced these things until it got to the point where she would have a little whine, I would rock the crib until she stopped then she would fall asleep herself. Then at about 4 months I could just put her down. Lots of work but worth it in the end.

Swaddling was the only thing that worked for DD1 and DD3. DD2 hated it. Trial and error i’m afraid, they are all different!

Tittygolightly - of course I've heard and read (extensively!) about the 4th trimester! I guess for some their babies safety is more important than for others.

We've tried everything everyone has suggested.
She tends to be able to go down for an hour or 2 which is great but then wants to be back with me. Sometimes I get her out of the Moses basket and I can't even remember doing it!! It terrifies me.

Tittygolightly - of course I've heard and read (extensively!) about the 4th trimester! I guess for some their babies safety is more important than for others.

We've tried everything everyone has suggested.
She tends to be able to go down for an hour or 2 which is great but then wants to be back with me. Sometimes I get her out of the Moses basket and I can't even remember doing it!! It terrifies me.

Tittygolightly - of course I've heard and read (extensively!) about the 4th trimester! I guess for some their babies safety is more important than for others.

We've tried everything everyone has suggested.
She tends to be able to go down for an hour or 2 which is great but then wants to be back with me. Sometimes I get her out of the Moses basket and I can't even remember doing it!! It terrifies me.

I guess for some their babies safety is more important than for others.

Bedsharing with babies is common around the world. Millions of babies sleep on and with their parent from birth every day and the number that are sadly harmed by it is minuscule. I think the odds are smaller than winning the lottery, unless you’re in one of the risk categories. There are safe bedsharing guidelines you can follow.

My husband worked away when DD was born. It was just me and her and I did whatever got us both the most sleep. I think some anxiety is normal when you become a parent, but knowledge is very powerful and helps us to feel in control.

We didn’t own a Moses basket, but it’s very common for babies not to like being in them. You can fight against that or work with it IMO.

(Of the 8 babies born to my NCT group 6 bedshared with a parent for at least a year. They’re now very healthy and boisterous 7 and 5 year olds.)

Hi op - if your baby is going down for an hour or two that is quite good for a 3 week old. My 8 month old rarely goes down for that long (obviously all babies are different!). It might just be something to keep persevering with and riding out.

Also, I did (and do sometimes now) sleep with my baby - I just made sure it was safe for her. It was better than no sleep at all.

I hope you can get some rest soon x

She is normally sleeping for 4/5 hour stretches 1/2 in her Moses and when she stirs the rest of the time she is on me. Progress is good
We're hoping this will gradually increase. We will be persevering for her safety and our peace of mind

Your opinion is irrelevant I have said time and time again I want her in her Moses for her safety!
I think you're trying to justify your reasons for having your baby in your bed than helping me. Everyone is different, maybe learn to accept that!

I started off with a Moses basket but it didn't work for us or baby - baby woke every time I tried to put him down. Got a chicco next to me and it's by far the best thing I bought for baby. So much easier to comfort and feed him and he is so much happier in it. Ollie the owl is also pretty good. Trouble is these things are all so expensive and what works for one person obviously may not work for another.

It’s your call. But you’re unlikely to get it without ignoring some of your baby’s innate needs. The majority of baby sleep “problems” are caused by unrealistic parental expectations.

Good luck.

I think just keep trying...and perhaps go straight to the cot if you can fit it in your room. DS was the same and eventually I got him to settle in his moses basket really nicely (I also bought a rocking base which helped as I could rock it when he stirred so not always picking him up). Anyway it all went wrong when he (very quickly) outgrew the basket (he's a big boy) and I have yet to get him to take to the cot - he's 9 months and we co-sleep now because of it. So I think perseverance is key but also think about where baby will need to be sleeping in a couple of months and start getting them used to that as well!

Sleepyhead worked for us in similar circumstances. I didn't want to cosleep as DH often has a couple of beers every evening so I didn't feel it was safe for us. My baby was very tiny as well (premature) so I think he felt swamped in the Moses basket. Sleepyhead was an instant hit and best £100 spent. He slept in it until he was about 8 months old, first in the basket then in a cot.

Your baby sounds normal. All mine cried as soon as I put them down. The only way they will get used to it is if you do put them down though. I've got four children so I can't sit holding my baby all day.
That's not leaving them to cry for long periods, it's enabling them to learn the skill to self settle which is better for both of you in the long run.
A few minutes of whimpering on their own is not going to do them any harm and is not the same as sleep training.
Swaddling is good and just gently shushing reassures them that you're still nearby.

Self settling is developmental. Newborns can no sooner self settle than they can climb trees.

It sounds like your baby is sleeping quite well for her age.

I will never ever let her cry. I don't know how anyone can do that.
As soon as she cries she is back in with us until she settles again.