Lonely mum

[Hayleyx]

Hello I'm not sure where to turn so I thought I'd try this?
I've got 2 beautiful girls 5 and 11 months and I have a loving partner too. I am surrounded by love and family but I feel so lonely.
I don't know who I am and I've always felt this way since leaving school, I thought having children would help but I feel even more isolated . I love my children with all my heart and I am so blessed to have them I just don't know who I truly am :(
We've had lots of stress with the little one as she's had silent reflux resulting in us sleeping separately and my mum has had to help me during the nights so we don't have couple time at all but I do know that's fixed by making time for each other but I still feel so lost in myself.
My dilemma at the moment is I don't know whether to have another baby because my partner wants one, I love being pregnant I feel so special and relaxed but as soon as baby's here I feel lost again
Hoping someone can relate as I feel so guilty for feeling this way

Thanks xx

Hi, I’m sorry you’re finding it so difficult. Did you ever feel like you (If that makes sense?)? I found I lost myself when I had children and I was pretty confident before I had them! Also really tested my relationship with my husband. Because we didn’t have any time together and still struggle to make time for each other (mine are now 4 and 1).

As for another baby, I think you need to be clear what you want. It’s a huge thing to go through and as you’ve said lovely as they are they often make life more tricky rather than easier.

I think it’s amazing you’re being so honest and I hope you find some reassurance and confidence in yourself.

So sorry you feel like this OP. Only you can decide if you want another baby. It sounds like you’ve had a tough few months and yiu May find that taking some time for yourself and your partner may help. Do you ever get time alone? We didn’t get to go out much but used to try to have a meal together once a week when the DC were in bed and with no phones or tv.

Do you think there is a chance that you could be depressed?