My baby will only go to mummy & Daddy

[Milliex]

Hello guys,
Pretty much what it says in the title. She's 5 months. Has been like this for over a month. What can I do? It upsets her grandparents x

Just have to wait it out! And imo it's best not to force it as upsetting baby won't help in the long run. My dd is 17 months and still won't go to strangers or people she doesn't see every day and has been the same since a few months old. It does improve with time!

I tried to tell myself that if someone I didn't
know (Babies obviously have a short memory span so unlikely to recognise grandparents unless they see v frequently) tried to pick me up and cuddle me I wouldn't be impressed either!

Thank you so much.

Yeh it's hard because all our family live away so they don't see her much. I guess I'm just scared of having a clingy baby. I thought it was because she's breastfed but she's fine with her dad.

I think it just makes it harder when grandparents etc say things like, oh you don't want her to be like that you know!!

Shes 5 months old you and daddy are her world. And a face she sees every single day.

I think grandparents have forgotton what babies are like.

It does not mean you have a clingy child x x

Babies don't exist to keep Grandparents happy.

It'll change.
Brush off any comments with " it's just a phase they're going through"

It's a normal developmental stage - normal but annoying and knackering! !

Thank you so much everyone. Made me feel better x

I wouldn't want a stranger picking me up either.

My son was like this but is so much more sociable at 14 months. She's still tiny.

My dd didn't even like my DH for the first 7 months, drove me absolutely potty!! She's 10 months now and much better, although still likes me to be in sight when she's with unfamiliar people. It gets better, just ignore your family!

I'm so grateful for the people who don't rush to try to pick up my DD. She isn't particularly clingy but always takes time to warm up to new people/anyone she hasn't seen recently. I do not understand why you would want to cuddle a distressed baby instead of happily watch and entertain a content happy one!

It’s a very normally developmental phase 😊 my DD sees my parents and in laws quite often and she still is a bit clingy to me and her dad! 😂

Mines 9 months and very very clingy! Often wobbles the bottom lip then full on cries if my parents hold them even though they see them twice a week.
I think you just have to let them get through the phase!

It is hard when relatives don’t live close. It took ages for my ds to remember the in laws as grandparents as they saw them infrequently. So each time they saw them they were strangers again. People forget that babies and small toddlers don’t have the same memory and understanding as them and expect them to treat them as grandparents.

On the other hand some children are naturally more clingy than others it is just part of their personality. Ds3 was a nightmare. Terrible separation anxiety, took ages to settle in school and still the most shy. Nothing we could do about it just love and reassurance.

Thanks so much everyone.
It's so annoying, and everyone says. Oh she's clingy because she's breastfed!!

I found breastfeeding so hard to start with but didn't give up. So I'm very happy I can now breastfed.

You can't do right from doing wrong can you! X

Newmummy1 When my MIL made comments like that I'd smile and say 'if he's 15 and wants me to hold all the time then I'll worry'. Would usually quieten her.

Our babies are little for such a short time, I just try and enjoy the hugs

The first rule of parenting is that grandparents talk utter utter sh1te, often out of self interest, and they are often incredibly inappropriate, rude and critical about your parenting. This is usually all about their own difficult feelings of ageing and insecurity that the baby brings out.

In this case they selfishly want the baby to like them so they invent reasons to try and make you force your baby to like them.

All to be pitied and ignored.

It's very normal and will pass, you do not have to push her.