I feel like I'll be pushing my dd out. Struggling to come to terms with a second pregnancy.

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I feel horrible..
I had dd a year ago next month. She's so wonderful. But she's very needy to us, which is fine. I love cuddling her to sleep etc. I'm soaking it in as much as I can as she will only be this age once.
So I found out early December time that I'm expecting another baby. I found out at 24 weeks I'm pregnant with a little boy. But my little girl is only so young I feel like she won't have the time she needs as I'll be spreading it between ds and her. I feel like she will be pushed out and I'm struggling with depression anyway and recently I've had a lot of money problems.. I'm struggling to see how ill cope.

I want to add, ds wasn't planned in the slightest. My contraceptive failed massively and I was still bleeding. I had no clue I was carrying him til I had to go to hospital from being in a lot of pain with what turned out to be him.

Your dd will nit be pushed our. Yes she will have less 1-1 time but she will gain a relationship with a sibling which is a really special thing. They'll be so close in age they will be able to play together in a year or so and at that point life will become massively easier :)

Yeah I agree with above poster. I was an only child & always wished I'd had a brother is sister. So I really don't see this as taking any thing away from her, but giving her something instead. Unfortunately you & your other half won't be around forever, it's nice they will have each other. I bet as soon as your son is born you'll wonder what you were worrying about!

I felt really guilty when I had my second, I couldn’t imagine how I could feel the intense way I did about my first with another. Of course I did, the love just stretches and grows. They are such great little friends now - they just delight in each other. It’s the best gift you can give your child- they’ll always have a friend.