Partner not as excited

[kimberly87]

Even tho my partner is supportive in his own way, I found it a bit weird he was t excited to feel the first kick - I must admit he had a long day at work but so did I (I to worked that day) I'm just a bit taken back that he didn't react with amazement or beaming with joy or a massive smile on his face. Is anyone else in the same position?

i to worked that day

What’s really the problem here OP, what else is going on? To be honest I didn’t beam with joy when I felt my own baby kick. Just relief that the milestones were being hit on time. I didn’t love the sensation of kicks and felt queasy later on when I’d see my stomach move as he did. But again relief. Everybody is different.

My DH was like that. Not really interested in feeling the kicks or anything like that. He did enjoy the scans though and was always very supportive and kind to me. I don't think pregnancy is as exciting and amazing for men as it is for us. My DH admitted to being weirded out by my big belly and often refused to watch baby rolling around in there as it was too freaky!
Once baby was born he was absolutely besotted though. Still is! Baby has started babbling "dada" and he's so proud.
I bet your partner will be the same.

Maybe I am just being too picky about it. I was absolutely over the moon about it tho which is probably why I expected him to be the same. It's our first child and all such a new and amazing feeling.

Also what does DH or OP STAND FOR?

Dear husband and original poster

My DH W as never as interested in feeling the kicks - it was more the waiting around hoping to feel one though. I think it’s a bit weird for men as they are not bearing the baby and don’t have the same bond - he is much more into the baby now that it’s born.

Dont worry about it.

My DH wasn’t overly interested in the kicks. The baby was a very abstract concept for him as he couldn’t see or feel him (didn’t help baby seemed to deliberately stop kicking when DH tried to feel!). As an above poster also mentioned, as soon as the baby was born, he was utterly besotted. He’s a wonderful dad and so clearly totally in love with our son. Don’t worry about it too much, I think pregnancies are a very different experience for many men but they often come into their own once the baby arrives.

DP wasn't as 'interested' in the DC until crawling age, give it some time babies can be a bit boring - especially when you can't even see them yet!
Men don't always get the instant bond that (some) women get. Even with women going through the pregnancy etc it can take time to build in some cases, everyone is different.

I understand why this upsets you, my other half was the same & in the end I wouldn't tell him when the baby was doing back flips because I knew he wouldn't be that interested that being said, as mentioned above he has been the most amazing dad to our daughter since she's been born. I think for mums it's all real when you find out you're pregnant, for dads it's when the baby is born... i do feel for you though, you want your joy to be shared. But only you can truly feel those little wriggles, it's a special bond between you & baby. have a healthy pregnancy xx