What toys will your 3 - 4 year old play on their own with?

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My grandaughter is 3 .5 and does not really play on her own or watch much TV.

If we get the jigsaws out, duplo blocks etc. she always wants me to play with her which is fine some of the time but just wondering if there is anything that you have found that they can get absorbed in at that age?

DS has a set of superhero capes that he can put on himself - he will do that and then run around pretending to be a superhero. Duplo is good. Cars too, he likes to line them up. And role playing with little figures, he has a fairytale castle set and an under the sea set which he uses to make up little stories. He will also play with his toy kitchen and food for a decent amount of time "cooking dinner". He has a six month old baby brother so has learned to play a bit more independently recently.

But his favourite thing ever is board games, which require an adult.

Playmobil sets. He will play for ages with the little figures making up stories etc, loves it!

Toy kitchen and food to an extent, but often turns into 'Mummy , come to my tea party'.
Jigsaws if she's in the mood.
Her doctors kit, but again often becomes 'Mummy, you must bring the toys to see me'!
Cars and/or her farm on a roadway mat is probably the best independent play thing she has, I never get asked to join in that.
Wooden train set, once I've built a layout.

Happyland.

It is an age where I think they have to transition to playing alone if they are used to always having an adult with them. DS is more likely to play alone if he hasn't been pushed into it so I might help him set something up and then go to the loo or to the kitchen for 5 mins, then it gives him w chance to become absorbed.

Kinetic sand and play dough.

My dd is almost 3, but small world toys, puzzles and paints/drawing/play doh are her things.

I find with craft activities that she'll play alone if I just, say, set up the paints then let her paint whatever she wants rather than insist we make a butterfly etc.

Tbh, whilst there are personality/interests factors here, I think she plays alone well because her toys are age appropriate (not hugely complicated - maybe your gd finds puzzles and duplo difficult? My dd is still playing with mega blocks and wooden blocks), and, this will make me sound like an awful mum, I leave her to get bored. I turn the TV off, I refuse to play because I'm cleaning or something so she has no choice. I might suggest setting up her train set, but I'll then leave her to play. I'm probably quite mean tbh . (and possibly patronising, in which case I apologise!)

My 3.5 yo plays with playmobil castle and knights, setting up different scenes, moving he figures around, he gets quite involved! He also liked a wooden marble run he got for Christmas where he sets up different mazes then runs the marbles to see if they work. He does still need a fair amount of interaction though, usually as I'm pottering about he'll say things like 'mummy, look at this, 'have you seen this man' 'this maze is fast', look!' Etc. He does occasionally like puzzles but he much prefers toys that let him use his imagination :-)

Anything, but I’ve been keen to promote independent play (and I have a 3 and a 4 year old.)

Thank you, will look into Happyland and marble run sounds like fun although I think I have read it takes ages to set up and we dont have a lot of room to keep it up all the time.

Honestly I think it’s not the toys that matter, it’s the attitude. DD is 3.5. Sometimes she plays happily on her own colouring, doing jigsaws, dressing up, swinging on a tyre in the garden, playing Lego (duplo), whatever - yesterday she was engrossed in mr potato for ages.
But other times she won’t play happily at all on her own. It’s attitude over the actual toy I think.

I would say it's less about the toy and more about encouraging them to play alone by 'ignoring' them a bit!

With ds1 there was nothing that he wanted to do on his own. He wanted my involvement and guidance in everything and it had nothing to do with the toys. Ds2 has aways been able to find things to do alone. At 3/4 he loved trucks and k'nex. It really has little to do with the toys and everything to do with temperament.

Ds turned 3 last month. Playmobil, model dinosaurs/animals, train set (once built for him), his kitchen stuff, garage etc.

Jigsaws he wants adult input and some days, he just wants to be watched whilst playing.

However from what other friends have said, I think it varies hugely from child to child.

Craft stuff.

If I set up the kitchen table with felt tips, stencils, craft scissors etc and put some Disney-type music on, she will sit there for up to two hours. She will need me to come and look / help with cutting something / fetch her specific craft items out of the cupboard / provide snacks etc every now and then, but she is generally engaged and I can get on with other things have a cup of tea and a bit of peace and quiet

Similarly:
play doh (bigger tidy-up operation is the pay-off - I sometimes make salt dough so it's all the same colour - less hassle to pack away, can just wrap it in cling film)
Paints (the cheapy watercolour style pallets are best for easy set up & cleaning afterwards)
Sticker sets (cheapy stickers from B&M / pound shop, colored paper & felt tips)
"writing" sets envelopes, colored paper and gel pens (sparkly ones are the best, apparently!).

She has just started getting into Play Mobil, and will play with it for much longer if I set it all up for her rather than leaving her to just get on with it.

At 3-4 (and even now at 6) my DD doesn't get absorbed in playing with something. She'll do jigsaws or Duplo for a bit. Colouring. But she likes playing board games with me. At 3-4 we had orchard toys stuff but again that needed me too.

Helping me round the house though she's do that all day. Give her a duster and leave her to it 🤣sorting washing into piles or putting shopping away in the low cupboards. But there's only so much of that you can do

I have boys and they will play with their police cars/trucks/trains for hours.

Increasingly they will draw pictures if given copious amounts of paper and pens - they will do it themselves but do need supervising in case felt tips end up on the carpet/wall

I second the Play doh and kinetic sand. He also likes to play with his little shop, he's 4 😊

Lego, duplo, paints and random toys he picks up for imagination games like you telephone while pretending to be a policeman for example (although he is just as happy to make his props out of duplo and spoons). Three and a half year old boy if it makes a difference.

Fuzzy Felts
Box of Cars
Wooden Bricks
Chad Valley PlaySmart Cogs Gears Carry Case Set
Soft toys - Plays "Nursery", "Picnics", "Christmas Party". He loves role play with his teddies.
Castle + Farmhouse with figures

Fuzzy felts, I remember them from when my children were little!

I have ordered a marble run to see how she likes that and I don't mind playing with her but I am just fed up with doing jigsaws on my own as she will just hand me the pieces and let me get on with it.

Honestly dd1 - nothing. She is a hugely social creature and still prefers to play with others. It got to ridiculous levels with her refusing to play in her own.
I had to 'time her out' in her play room. I would put her in the playroom and tell her to stay there for 5 minutes (sandtimer in side)
Initially she would scream for about half of it, them seem to realise there were toys everywhere and start to play. It got to the point where I could get to 15 minutes of playing out of her before I had to join in. I considered it a win.

I never thought I'd have to persuade a child to play!