Not sitting on the potty or the toilet!

[canella]

My ds1 (2.6) is driving us mad - he is refusing to sit his bare bum on the potty or the toilet seat or the toilet! will sit on the potty with his nappy on for the grand total of 3 seconds! My dh are now arguing about the way forward - with dd1 i just kept encouraging her to sit on the potty but kept her in pull ups till she did it then she was dry form then on.
Is the way forward to put him in pants and let him wee on them till he finaly gets the idea OR keep encouraging him to sit on the potty or toilet seat till he gets it?
Think dh is frustrated cause dd was dry by this age but we just cant agree on a plan which isnt going to help ds!

pants is the way to go

or bare bummed for a few days

Agree with nailpolish, try pants for four or five days and gently encourage him to use the potty. Lots of praise and reward(I used choclate buttons) when he does sit on the potty) If after a few days you have made no progress, then back to nappies for another month.

I have heard it's harder to potty train boys, so good luck!

Sounds as though he's not ready, I'm afraid. If you insist on trying to train him when he's not ready, you could make the whole process very difficult for yourself! Boys quite often train later than girls. 2.6 is pretty young, IMO. I'd go back to the nappies and chill out for a good few months before trying again.

Canella - my ds wasn't ready AT ALL at that age!

I agree he's not ready. Just coz your dd was dry doesn't mean your ds will be. My ds wasn't dry until at least 3.5yrs old!

I'd say wait, otherwise it'll take ages and be stressful for both of you. When he's really ready, it shouldn't take so long.

If you really think he is ready, but just not willing to try, you could try rewarding him for just sitting on the potty without doing anything, and work up very slowly from there.

Having a similar issue with my DD so boys not always tougher to train than girls I guess! She had 1 week about 3 months ago where she did a poo on the potty every night before bed and we thought we had cracked it. Then all of a sudden and ever since she gets upset if we even MENTION the potty although she apparently does wees on it at nursery!
Have decided not to sweat it. Summer is coming when she can run around in the garden with no nappy on (easier clean up!) and hopefully we can ease her back into it. I know people whose lo's weren't ready until 3.5 or 4 so I wouldn't worry too much just yet!

Ds1 didn't train until about 2.10 and then we had to go bare bottomed to get it done.

We also did a lot of sitting on his little potty with his diaper on and reading a short story just to get him used to the idea of his potty.

Agree with the others. He isn't ready, and if you push things too hard you will only cause problems later on. My dd was 2.1 when she decided overnight that she was absolutely not going to wear a nappy again, but ds was at almost 3.5 before he consented to 'not' wear one, despite prompting by me/dh for months prior to that. But when the time is right it will just work. In the end ds was sorted inside of a week, because he was ready to do it at that point. Oh and he never did like to use the potty - much prefered the toilet.
Take a deep breath, poke dh in the ribs till he does the same, and forget about it till ds shows he is ready, and in the meantime enjoy the summer!

thanks so much for the posts- i couldnt be online - had dinners and baths to do! think dh is sweating at how much money we fork out on nappies (also have an 8 month old ds!!) but he has no idea how to go about this potty training (although as you can gather - i'm no expert!!)he just decided this afternoon to take ds's nappy off, put him in some pants and see what happened! well obviuosly he just kept weeing on the floor! we had an arguement just before my OP cause ds was desperate for his nappy so i put it back on!
but bizarrely for the first time ever he sat bare bummed on the potty tonight before the bath! must have known i was talking about him on MN!!
Think i'm a bit calmer now cause this was how dd was - months of sitting on the potty but doing nothing then suddenly weeing on it one day!was stressing before cause he was being so stubborn!
i'll be so glad to post in a few months time when he's dry!
as a few of you said - roll on the summer!