4 years old tantrums

[Olivia93]

Hi everyone im looking for advice on how to help my 4 years old daughter to stop tantrum every morning before nursery. She goes to bed at 7pm every night and i wake her up at 8am to get ready for school/nursery , i also have 3 others children 9 ,7 and nearly 2 . Every morning she refused to get up and it can take us 10 mins to go downstairs because she wont leave the bed and as soon we get downstairs , she wont let me brush her teeth or get her dressed , all she does is crying till we leave the house at 8.40am . Its really stressful even my older children are fed up with her crying all the time .... this morning my partner is off from work so i didnt bother to wake her up and i got my 2 oldest ready for school and we left in peace and my 7 years old was like mum , i wish every day daddy can be at home to look after 4 years old so you can take us to school in peace ... any suggestion on what to do so she can enjoy morning please?

What sort of hours is she in nursery? Is this a new thing or has she always been like this?

She always been like this since september but it getting worse now . She start at 9am till 12am only 3 hours .

What does she say about it? What does she tell you that she’s crying about?

My four year old gets some kind of anticipation anxiety, even about people and places he knows and refuses to go because of some unquantifiable worry. He does go, he sees it’s fine and he has a great time, and he says he’s had a good time afterwards, but it can take an age to get him ok with the idea. Is this common in four year olds? I’d assumed so. I do a lot of distraction (races work for him), or pointing out that it’s a day where his best friend is going too, or just ‘come on, we’re going. I’ll be with you and you’ll have a nice time (like every other day)’

Does she eat a decent breakfast? I’m wondering if she wakes up hungry and grumpy?

My 4 year old is like this in the morning due to hunger. I now don't wake her until breakfast is on the table and take her straight down in pjs to eat. If I try to get her washed and dressed before eating she is grumpy and cross and emotional, although she doesn't say she's hungry. Might be worth a shot?

its not about hungry because i tried waking her up straight to eat breakfast before she even brush her teeth but she still cry while eating and i think the problem is she just dont like to get up in the morning ... for example this morning she woke up at 9.45am by herself and there was no trantum , she brush her teeth and had breakfast and she is playing ...

I'd wake her earlier so she can wake up a bit before she has to get up. The difference with my DD between a rushed 8am and more leisurely 7.45 is noticeable.

She's not getting enough sleep.

i know she's in bed for 13 hours but it's clearly not enough overall. Can she have a nap after nursery?

Actually as you say she's only been like this since nursery, I would guess that she dislikes nursery.

She's trying to delay going by staying in bed. If you go without her (as you did today) she clearly can't go, so she gets up happily.

I was about to say the same as Qvar. I’d be very tempted to put her to bed an hour earlier.
When my dd was 3 I very clearly remember putting her to bed at 5.30 one day, it was winter, so it was dark and she was cranky because she was tired.

Thank you everyone , she love nursery so much but she just dont like getting up in the morning which is very stressful and i use to put her in bed at 8pm then i have to do it earlier by 7pm because of this reason i taught it will help but still the same .... and if i put her to bed for 6pm it will be like a nap to her because sometime she use to fell asleep by 6pm and she be awake by 9-10pm and wont go back to sleep till 1am or later . She doesnt nap during the day anymore